...guy and iam a muslim, seeing we cant go nowhere i have decided to get rid??
just wen i found out i was pregnant, we went for a scan, i was 7 weeks the little heart just sent shivers down my spin, how can i get rid of it?
so i decided not to do it.
recently he talked to his mum about the situation, she said that there is noway we can do tis as he is a christain and i am a muslim. i have not even told a single memeber of my family except for my close couzin.
as a muslim abortion is totally forbidden.
i am so scared and i have never been in so much tears in my life.
sumone pls help. as i have only a couple of days to decided as wheter to keep it or not.
reply asap everyone
thank you.
bytheway i just turend 20 and i still got education he is 26.
2006-09-03 04:11:21 · 11 answers · asked by unknown2009 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First off at the age of 20 you should know that you can get pregnant if you have sex. Even using birth control or condoms isn't always affective...I am 20 as well...I am expecting my first baby at any time now. And I would not give the experience up for anything. Abortion is wrong for more than just cultural reasons. I don't want to sound rude or make you feel worse but you are both adults. I had only been 20 for 3 months prior to finding out I was pregnant...I thought everyone would be mad but my family has supported me. You may regret an abortion....maybe consider having the child and giving it a chanceif at the end you still don't want the responsibiliy and niether does he then put the baby up for adoption...don't just kill it the baby did nothing wrong! You play you pay!
2006-09-03 04:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow I cant believe how unsympathetic some people can be!!! I am sorry to hear of the situation you are in. So you made a mistake. We all do at some point. People in here shouldn't be so cruel. If I am correct your situation is made even worse by your family and your religion. And you sound as though you are very deperate. I dont believe in abortion and I think you will regret it if you abort the baby. But I dont think I can give you advice on this. You have to make this decision yourself. If you keep this baby your life will be harder, but I think you will feel better about yourself that you did not add another mistake on top of your first one. However, you are not the only one who made a mistake here. I think the father of the child should be here for you no matter what his mother says. He also made a mistake that he should have to take responibility for. Talk to him about it. If not see if your doctor can give you any advice on where you can go to get some help. Once your parents find out I'm guessing that they will not allow you to stay. You will need some assistance. Ultimately the choice is yours. My prayers are with you. Good Luck!
2006-09-03 05:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by emilyanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered adoption? Sometimes, giving the child up for adoption shows more love and compassion than trying to raise the child on your own. Plenty of people spend years waiting for a baby to adopt. I know this because we have waited for a very long time. I know others that have waited longer than we have.
In the end, you must choose the option best for the baby, you, and the baby's father. While family is important, as an adult, this decision is yours to make without any undue influence from the family. Listen to the advice of those close to you, then listen to your heart. Use your brain to put it all together and make in informed decision.
Good luck!
Will D
Enterprise AL
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2006-09-03 04:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by Will D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what happens when you don't use contraception. This is a tricky situation to be in as religious views on pregnancy clash. You need to do what is best for you. You are still young and only you can decide whether you are ready to put your life on hold to have a baby. Of course both your family and his will be angry but you just have to live with that, your family are bound to find out anyway if you don't tell them.
2006-09-05 23:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by emmalp75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm...I'm sorry to hear that. Where do u live btw? I think you should tell ur parents(I aint kiddin). They're best people to decide what's right for u. Whether you wanna keep da baby or not..it all depends on u. Suppose ur bf decides to leave u(i hope he doesnt), will u be able to raise your child single handedly? Are u willing to be a single mum? What abt ur future? Your dreams and aspirations? You need to take into account all that.
2006-09-03 06:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what is right for you not for anyones religion or pride
please make sure in future that you use protection abortion should not be used as a form of contraception
2006-09-03 04:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Pink Princess♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO DONT GET RID OF IT. you had sex now deal with the consequences. your an adult now, in the eyes of the law. your family or his cant do nothing about it. i think its about time that you run your own life and not your family to run and ruin it for you. continue with t e education, and raise your family yourself. you might also want to use spell check.
2006-09-03 04:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by jamiehamster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i m also a muslim girl. first were u mad that without marrying u had such sexual relations with a boy be it a christian or any other. now whats the fault of that baby who has just started developin . just dont abort it.
2006-09-03 04:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by rusty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly you made a mistake and if you are really ask for forgiveness you will be forgiven...Allah is Most Merciful and Oft Forgiving.
secondly your baby is alive and a part of this world it would be murder. dont make another mistake...
you will learn to forgive yourself and love for your baby will become more important than anything.
please dont abort.
ask allah for forgiveness and give your boyfriend da'wa. if you need help dont hesitate to email me
2006-09-03 07:21:17 · answer #9 · answered by nomadneesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to spell :)
2006-09-03 04:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Mad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋