My friend just lost her baby 3 days ago. Her funeral is in 2 days. Would it be okay to give her a personalixed box frame to keep some of the baby's things? I think it might help her to know someone cares as well as to remember her baby.
2006-09-03 03:50:49 · 14 answers · asked by hotrod luvin princess 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Having been in your friends position. I think it's very thoughtful of you to give her the personalized box frame. I would say anytime is right really. In a way waiting until after the funeral may actually be better, it will be a reminder to her how even though time has passed, her baby is not forgotten about at all.
Please don't give flowers or a plant with the frame though, those things die and it makes for a hard reminder of what she has already suffered.
Talk to your friend and let her talk about the baby all she needs to. It's a very hard loss she just suffered. I am so sorry to hear of her loss.
2006-09-03 07:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ericka K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a wonderful idea. A small keepsake box is great for the birth certificate, lock of hair, footprints, pictures. At this point your friend is still in shock. I would still give it to her though. When her world stops spinning she can take a look at this, and put all the things that are important to her inside. It will be opened daily, when she needs reminders of her baby. Please continue to be supportive of your friend. If you have time, bting her some cooked meals, clean up her house, go obtain groceries for her. When you first loose a child its very harxd to focus on anything but the horrible loss you've endoured. Stick with her through this time, and just listen. Good luck!
2006-09-03 21:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by trix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very sweet gesture and I don't know how it will be taken. Your friend may be in a state of grief where she doesn't want to really acknowledge her baby's death yet, and anything that reminds her of her baby may anger or upset her. Or, she may be able to accept your gift as the generous and thoughtful present it is. It may be good for you to try and get a sense of how your friend is doing dealing with her baby's death...if she's talking about it a lot, if she's talking about her feelings about her baby's death, or if she's talking about completely unrelated things, or seemingly trying to avoid talking about it at all costs. If that's the case, you may want to hold off on giving the present. It is important for your friend to deal with her grief and it's also possible that it'll take her some time to accept it, which would include accepting gifts that would force her to remember.
Whatever you decide to do, it is a very considerate gift, and it's nice that you are being such a good friend.
2006-09-03 04:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by judithsr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best time would be now before or at the funeral. This way, it doesn't make her lose it in 2 weeks from now when you give it to her. She's already in mourning & a nice gesture from you could really help her through this terrible time. My heart goes out to her, your a good friend.
2006-09-03 04:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best time would be now before or at the funeral. This way, it doesn't make her lose it in 2 weeks from now when you give it to her. She's already in mourning & a nice gesture from you could really help her through this terrible time. My heart goes out to her, your a good friend.
2006-09-03 04:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by pritigrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your friend. I think your gesture would be a sweet warm gesture that would mean a lot to her. She will need a friend in the months to come. I think it will bring her a lot of comfort to look at her babies pictures in that frame and know that she's not alone. That you care too. It's very sweet, definately do it.
2006-09-03 03:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by Yvonne D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think that it is to soon. Your friend needs the support of thoes that are around her my sisters baby died on may 29,2006 she was born on april 5,2006 she has a memory box and to her it is a source of comfrot although it is sad because it is better to have loved and lost than not to hav loved at all and it is helping get threw this hard time so i think it is a good idea.
2006-09-03 03:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by Smilez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a caring and considerate friend. I think that it would mean a lot to her that someone doesn't want her to forget her child. Some people may say its too early but you need to remember that she needs friends and family to be there for her right now. I'm a mother of a three year old, I'll pray for her. God Bless you.
2006-09-03 04:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I understand, SIDS is entirely a term for honestly any toddler dying that may not be in a position to be defined via something. maximum SIDS situations are only the infant going to sleep and not waking up yet they could label any variety of issues SIDS to boot.
2016-10-01 06:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes give her the gift. It will let her know that people care about her and her pain. Years from now the keepsake will mean so much to her but she will be able to enjoy it and be greatful that she has it and you.
2006-09-03 09:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by steff t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋