why are older men such jerks??

Question

here it is a holiday i am married and have not seen my husband for 2 days he left to think so he says dont know if there is another woman we have been married for 2 year @the end of the month
why are men jerks i did not do any thing i am a good wife i cook clean work and end to him dont want to leave but whats a old woman to do( but not to old) thank you for reading

Answer 1

Hun, I am sorry. I know how you feel. My man recently left me for no reason at all and we have 3 kids together and one on the way. I am so sick of men! I am considering turning into a lesbian! LOL

Answer 2

First, I am sorry this is happening. But it is also important not to say such general statements as "older men are such jerks" merely because of one man. It heps on the road to healing. Although I personally think that leaving for a couple of days to think was not a good decision for any relationship, people do need some space to themselves. So I would suggest you reserve any judgment for now, and wait until he returns. He will definitely be expected to talk to you openly about what he thinks and feels then. Oh, and please don't blame yourself for anything. You may or may not have contributed to your husband's feelings, but in the end, there are plenty more fish in the sea and you can't hang onto a forced relationship. Good luck.

Answer 3

It is possible that he is feeling smothered, and is actually doing just what he says, getting away to consider the situation. You do not give specific information, but if he is older, he is most likely set in his ways somewhat, as are you. If too many changes are happening, he can start to feel that he is not in control of his own life. For example, if before you were married, he used to enjoy watching sports on Sunday afternoon, either alone, or with a few friends, and now you want him to spend that time with you, he has lost something important to him. If he likes to go fishing, and now has to spend more time doing "honey-do" projects, again he is going to feel like he is missing something!

Part of the problem is apparent in your question. You refer to him as a "jerk". This most likely comes through real life also. You say you are a good wife, but define that as cooking and cleaning and tending to him. You may be trying to control and change him, and seeing as he is "older", that is not going to work. He does not need a mother, he needs a partner.

Good luck, whatever you two decide to do!!
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Answer 4

I hear you. I am sure you can do better. I am at that point in my life - with a little different situation relating to kids. He is 7 years older than me - regardless, we've been together nearly six years. He has 2 younger boys and I have 2 boys, teenager and the oldest one already moved out. The first 4 years were wonderful - then his boys started treating my disrespectful - Argghh!! I think allot of their problem is being spoiled rotten! We definitely have differences in raising kids. My previous job ended due to company restructuring. Then, I became a stay-at-home mom. thinking, I would love it. Two years later, I realize I miss working. He does not understand as he support us. But I want my own income too. Because of all this stress - our sex life has gone downhill completely opposite of what we were.

I am so ready to make some major changes myself to eliminate the stress.

Answer 5

Da Bohemian is not a jerk, but thinks your husband needs to communicate better with you.
Unfortunately a person's feelings can change ,irrelevant of gender. The fair thing for him to do is to reassure you if it is just a tough time that he is going through and feels he can work it out with you. There may be some changes on both of your parts.
But to just go off is inconsiderate and selfish. If there is somebody else he should let you know so you can deal with it and move on.

Answer 6

If your marriage depends on how well you cook & clean, it doesn't sound like a very happy one.

Two ways to go here:
- Either he's making you miserable by cheating on you and ignoring you, and you need to leave him and get on with your life. It's quite possible you know.
- Or your marriage is worth saving and this is a temporary setback. Some people get over infidelity, if that is what it is. You need a fresh start and to stop taking each other for granted.

Answer 7

I'm sorry to hear about you problem. He does seem to be a bit of an idiot. I'm an older man. I am married 20 years, I cook for my family, do all the food shopping, take my teen daughters to rock concerts, attend school events, take my wife on romantic dates,
work hard and love my family, friends and life. Am I an idiot too?
Maybe you need to confront him and get this working again. It takes two to make a go of it. Good luck!

Answer 8

I'm not a jerk I'm 44 years old , been married twenty six years,, have not cheated at all, I share household chores, cook 'do all the yard and car maintanance, open doors for my wife tell her I love her, I'm not " whipped", I wouldn't cheat if the chance literally presented itself.

Answer 9

All people can be jerks. Men aren't the exclusive members of that club. I know women that work in the Spa where I work who are jerks as well.

Answer 10

Don't blame it on age. Something is not going right with your marriage. You are obviously not communicating well with your husband.
Reflect on how both of you got together in the first place. That might provide some clue for you.
Were both of you really in love when you got married or was it just physical and sexual attraction? He doesn't seem to respect you!