Do you make friends with people because they're nice or because they're interesting?

Question

Please don't be obvious and just say "both". Which is a higher priority?

Answer 1

Interesting it what makes you notice them in the early stages, but nice is more important when you are creating emotional connections with them. You need to want to care for them to forge a worthwhile relationship.
So out of the two, nice is the most important. (that's the theory; interesting is always good fun though!)

Answer 2

For who they are .. if the are genuine and are offering a true friendship. People can pretend to be nice all the time ... people can even pretend to be interesting - so time always tells the true nature of the person and I would prefer to have one with good intentions and really wants a true friendship.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 3

A truly nice person is one who gets to know you by showing genuine interest and caring, and who also leads their life in a deep caring fashion. And I find this attractive and interesting, and I want these people as my friends.

Other people who appear to be "nice" and polite are actually the opposite - they are keeping their distance from you, either not understanding you or being uncomfortable in their own skin. So I don't strike up friendships with these types.

As for the "interesting" people, if I don't get a sense of goodness from them, then I tend not to be interested.

Answer 4

you should be interested in people cos of hteir individuality and young people before they get bittter and twisted say they want to meet new people
my automatic reaction on meeting ppl is think in terms of how they can benefit me but i immediaately correct myself and ask myself do i feel anything for this person-of the answer's no i kill the relationship
at the age of fifty there is almost no one that i want to know now and the fiters and barriers come up immmediately-the knowledge that most people are dealing with you on the accidental basis of you just happen to be in the same place is too crushing to bear
it was a very good question but try not to go too deep into it;most ppl's advice on htis matter is to have a lot of friends and try not to take what they say and do too seriously-i know tha t is patronising and irritating advice but you will never go wrong by oversdtimating the crap that people will pull so dont set yourself up to be disappointed

Answer 5

Interesting, I suppose. I can't stand people who are just "nice" -it's annoying nowadays.

I had a discussion with my best friend the other day. We came to the conclusion that there were about two of three people who we would truly care about (excluding family) if they came to us and said, "I'm going away forever. Adiós."

We came to the conclusion that only the people we felt like we "loved" (not just romantically) were the people we'd actually care about.

My point is, all of those people are interesting. So, there.

Answer 6

Both. Who wants a mean person for a friend ? Who wants a friend that is dull or not interesting. ? I look for both qualites that show a person is nice and interesting. They make the better friends to start off with . Good luck ! :)

Answer 7

Nice, no question, Adolf Hitler was interesting but doesn't mean I want him as a Friend, he most certainly was not nice! To become good lasting Friends though people have to be nice and interesting

Answer 8

Sorry to be obvious, but I don't want to be friends with nice people who are dull as dishwater. And I certainly don't need anyone who's interesting, but annoying & nasty.

Gotta have some of both. You know, sorta like you ;-)

Answer 9

niceness is the higher priority. if they are interesting you only like them for so long before they aren't treating you the way a real friend would:WITH RESPECT.

Answer 10

Interesting....! No doubt about it. Whatever picks my interest. I get curious and want to know more. Staying in your comfort zone is boring. Exploring other completely different people and different mentalities poses a challenge and makes you (ultimately reevalute yourself if one wants to do so )

Nice........right...OK but can be boring....small conversations, iddle talk..... I prefer people who pose a challenge really. Sure it is comfy to be in the company of "nice" people......but does not one not feel "strangled" at some point ??