For me to want to have sex with other people, I'm Happily married and have been for 6 years. But my husband can't make love with me anymore. Due to an accident. He says he's happy for me to see other people but I think that would destroy him.
What would you do?
2006-09-03 03:42:34 · 24 answers · asked by razza raych 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would probably see other people seen as he is ok with that...you love him, not them and at the end of the day it's only sex....try and find out about male escorts...they rarely get attatched to their clients so it would be just a business agreement between you.... women do have needs too!!!!!
2006-09-03 03:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by The Banshee 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is possible to 'make love' without intercourse. I don't think that you would feel good about yourself if you had sex with another person, and what happens if you start to develop feelings for this person? how would your husband feel knowing he encourage you do this. If I was you I make clear to your man that you love him and that as long as he shows the affection that you need then you will always been satisfied with your marriage. If its a question of sexual satisfaction why not try masturbation I am sure your husband wouldn't mind this and you would still be true to your man.
2006-09-03 12:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh goodness!
I'm sorry about your husband and his accident. But frankly, you're married. When you took those vows it was for better or worse, sickness and in health. To go around and have sex with other people would be breaking those vows...that solemn promise. Whether he says he's ok with it or not, don't do it. Someday it will come back and bite you in the butt.
Just my opinion.
2006-09-03 11:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you use toys or other marrital assitants? If you feel the need for that interractive intimacy, then perhaps he and you can go and meet someone you both agree on and feel comfortable with. Perhaps a close friend eho you both trust and not only understands and respects your situation but could be available when you need him. It;s a hard situation. But I think if you go the friend rout you'll be in a better situation.
2006-09-03 10:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay at home and discreet fun away with someone you like and who is in a similar situation. I think it is difficult to separate sex from emotions, even for me as a bloke. For 5 years I continue to meet with a female friend in a situation similkar to yours. we are the best of friends first, occassional lovers second. Never simple though!
2006-09-03 10:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by Ade Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel you really need to ask yourself some hard questions here.
in our vows we always say for better and for worse and in sickness and in health, but when reality sets in, those vows many times go out the window. there are other ways to make love or for him to be able to satisfy you. both of you need to talk on this and be open-which i see at this point you have been.
honestly, he has your happiness at heart, but i feel you are right. if you did have sex with someone else, it would crush him-regardless of what he is telling you now.. i wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-03 10:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by lon d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do believe that marriage vowels say in sickness and in health. Have you forgotten that? How god damn selfish could you be? He is your husband. How would you like it if you were the one in the accident and he was out ******* around on you? And your Question is "is it Wrong" Wake up there my dear.
2006-09-03 11:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by JAYNE C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been dealing with this same issue with my dad and mom...my dad is impotent and my mom stays frustrated...they have been together 27 years and love eachother completely...they would never leave eachother....but my dad REALLY wants my mom to go out and find someone she would like to have sex with and do it, he hates the fact that he cannot satisfy her, he wants her to be happy more than anything...and there would be no regrets on his part.....i believe both parties would have to seriously talk about it and agree to it, b/c if you do it behind his back, and you really love him your conscience will kill you......good luck.....
2006-09-03 10:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are woman and you have needs but you should not cheat on your husband. For better or worse and right now you dealing with the worse. If it that serious file for separation and test the waters but please do not hurt your husband regardless what he says it will break his heart for you to cheat on him.
2006-09-03 10:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by Disha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go down that road it will end in tears, you may fall in love, and there is the innocent party too. There are lots of ways to enjoy sex if you truley love him.
2006-09-03 12:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by cookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋