He has sworn he will never marry again and is happy just being partners ?
5 years later, nothing !
What can I do ?
No point in me proposing he will just say we have talked about this already.
2006-09-03 03:28:42 · 24 answers · asked by xxkajieexx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if getting married is that important to you and you don't want to continue "living together" then its ultimatum time but don't be surprised if he says cheerio
2006-09-03 03:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him its time to cut your loss and move on. That you are looking for a marriage not a life partner.
Then if nothing happens then move on find a man who is husband material. Most men I find that keep a woman hanging like that its because they are looking for something a little better. They may never find that but they will not commit. When they found that better person they are gone. My daughter married a man who did not want to marry ever and he had been with a girl about 10 years. She snagged him and he feel hard. My husband dated a high school girl friend and when I met him we were married a few weeks later. "good bye five years of her waiting".. Seen that to many times.
If does not want to marry you now he is not going to 10 years down the road. Had another situation where the man separated then got together with a girl friend. They were together 15 years. He died and the wife came in and changed the locks on the house. Threw the girlfriends clothes out and the girl friend got NOTHING. The wife legally took everything. Even the house the girlfriend help pay for in California.
Cut your looses more on and find the marrying kind.
2006-09-03 03:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this guy and enjoy being with him, accept the relationship as it is. Don't try to change him. If you life goals are different, like wanting children and he doesn't, move on.
I understand his position. I'm in the same boat and have a partner and a much better relationship than my past marriage. I feel I'm not the marrying type. My partner agrees, so it works well for us.
Good luck.
2006-09-03 03:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you from the beginning, he doesn't want to get married again. My bf said the same thing. So I believe him. Too many women foolishly think "he will change his mind", and find themselves angry and disappointed when he doesn't. Women SET THEMSELF UP for this!
Me? I have a great guy, we get along great, live together, I get along great with his family, we treat each other with respect. That's what is important. I knew from the beginning that if marriage was something I needed, I should probably look for someone else.
Sorry to tell you, there is nothing you can do. If he changes his mind, it has to be HIS decision.
2006-09-03 03:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut off the sex. tell him you're looking for a more committed situation. He'll have to make a decision. As it is now, he has everything he wants without the responsibility. It's quite inconsiderate for him to downplay your needs and concerns that way. Maybe someone that selfish (he's a taker, you're a giver...that might not work out anyway) isn;t good for you. But hey, good luck regardless.
2006-09-03 03:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you wasting your time with someone who is completely unavailable?
Time for you to move on without him.
Believe me, there is plenty of other fish in the sea that would go and propose.
You already know that he is not going to propose, so leave.
2006-09-03 03:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will never marry again. It's only a piece of paper , what ,do people need it in writing that their partner loves them? living together is the same as being married and it's cheaper and alot less of a hassle if the relationship ends.if you love him why is that piece of paper important?
2006-09-03 03:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE please don't do what i have done marry a man who has already been married before because he will just use you like a peace of shite.your in for just a load of unwanted heart ack and at the end you will be loosing yourself respect.love there is no such word,he's just having a good time with you.piss him off i married him but its hell trust me.move on girl you deserve better.move on move on
2006-09-06 08:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by mariolla oneill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless his wife was unfaithful, he has no business proposing again and a woman has no business going out with him, let alone accepting.
2006-09-03 03:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that ure priorities have changed and the thought of grown old as a happily married couple are now very important to you.
would you be prepared to give him up if he refuses to say 'i do'?
as much as i sympathise why not chill out and enjoy ure life as it is....are u happy generally ? x
2006-09-06 08:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by Girl From Mars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Jim jam he looks like an intelligent individual
2006-09-03 03:32:53 · answer #11 · answered by aspecialfred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋