Why so many divorce these days?

Question

What could be the reason of so many marriages getting failed these days...Can anybody tell ?

Answer 1

Truth is not absolute these days. So commitment is not absolute either. Everything is relative. We love as long as it benefits us. This is the foundation of modern day marriages. I will love and cherish you now, but there are no guarantees . No one seriously believes 'until death do us part'.
So commitment is relative. However, the biggest problem is that needs push people into marriage. People marry one another to have their needs met. After the honeymoon, they wake up and find they don't even like the guy/gal. They endure fights and arguments and infidelities until divorce is the outcome. Nowadays people jump into bed with each other before they practically even know each others name. Then when this romance takes off and everything is lovely, they then find out things about their partner that they cannot stand. How long do you suppose these relationships last? As soon as the bad out-weighs the good, it is splits-ville. Usually takes a year or so, or until the woman no longer puts out, whichever comes first. There is a better way, but it involves self control, abstinence, maturity and common sense. Try telling that to a modern day young kid who wants it all NOW without regard to consequences. Wisdom is one of those things that everyone must learn on their own because of everyone's proneness to rebellion. It would save a whole bunch of pain if we would listen to the wise. But we don't.

Answer 2

I have heard that marriage takes work and the way our lives are now a days we don't always want to work to make things happen. So many probably find it easier to end the marriage than work at solving their problems and staying together. Another reason could be that people might rush into getting married instead of taking time out and making sure that is the right person for them.

Answer 3

This is the Decade for Divorce!! It is socially acceptable. It has almost become as casual as dating. If you are unhappy then break up. The only difference is that there is paper work involved. Friends and family are more likely to support you to end your marriage over a crisis than to stay and work it out. If you don't like what your spouse is doing than leave that jerk!!!

Even churches are catering to these thoughts. They know the large amount of members are divorced. If they preach this to be wrong as written in the bible then their churches would be empty.

There is no one out there to state that divorce is wrong. Even the court system is eager to get the divorce over. People should have to prove that they are in need of a divorce. The court should be able to deny a divorce or sentence marital counseling.

We are teaching our children that "family" the whole safe haven and learning block is meant to be knocked down at anytime someone becomes unhappy. There is no respect for marriage in our society.

Answer 4

I think that there are several reasons that marriages don't work today. One of the biggest is that most people seem to be really unhappy with themselves and they feel if they were married that they would be happy. But marriage doesn't work that way. You have to make yourself happy and your spouse is the "added" bonus of happiness. I also think that people get married because they think that they found that soul mate. Marriage is hard and I don't think that the parents teach their children that they have to work at things. They just keep giving their children what they want. So then the child gets married and they want everything perfect just like at home. Unfortunately there is work involved and it is easier to get a divorce now days than to work through your problems.
God Bless

Answer 5

Too many couples jump into marriage too soon. These normally mistake physical and other attractions as "love". After marriage, they then realize that they are not compatible or can't live with each other as husband and wife. Hence the divorce. Some societies also make it easy for couples to divorce.

Answer 6

Marriages are falling about because money and lack of sex. These two are most common but there many other reasons.
God is only that can keep a marriage from falling apart. The
reason why I say that because when your and mate sit down and discuss you problems and pray about them God will fix them. Times have change it not like it was fifty years ago when couples stay marry really until deaf do us part. God is key because with out him you will not have happy and successful marriage.

Answer 7

because people get married for the wrong reasons. Some confuse sex with love. some are sexually incompatable (he wants 2x daily and she wants it 1x a month). they never talked about it. Sometimes the woman changes from huge sexual appetite to dry gulch for no apparent reason. sometimes they were attracted at the time but then someone much better comes along and they want the new toy with better options.
I'm not sure people understand the word commitment anymore either.
communication just isn't there when both parties think that sex is mandatory on the 4th date.

Answer 8

Because there are no rolls. Like girl does housework and cooks. Husband has good job and is a good money manager and keeps his wife home and they have children. Or wife takes small job and helps have extra money. Husband adores wife and wife adores him. They both love their children.

So when people marry after the honey moon is over, it is not as exciting and they still want that excitement and move on to find it with another girl. Plus I have seen what is out there. I am glad I am not in the game of picking another husband. I married for love after several dates and worked the kinks out after. Now I would want some one who is financially stable, has a savings comparable to mine. Is thrifty, loves to help in the kitchen and is good in bed. You know I am old enough to where I can do with out the bed thing. Just want a man who treats me good and is in good humor the majority of the time. I would certainly have a marital contract. I would do a back ground check too, financial and police back ground check.

Answer 9

People seem to think marriage is easy, and don't really take the vows seriously. And people don't take responsibility for their own happiness, they expect someone, something else to make them happy. When that doesn't happen, they look for something else that will. And divorce is so mainstream now, like getting a flu shot.

Answer 10

Because people have stopped trying to work things out...it's easier to just be selfish and pay for a divorce..

Also I think many people rush into marriage nowadays-just to have a wedding--it's almost trendy to get married....