I ve got a 14 month old and iam in between minds to try for another. I am on the pill and i came off it a week early before i should of had my 7 day break. Theres nothing stoping me from trying, got a great husband, lovely house but i scared of the labour.
2006-09-03 03:19:11 · 11 answers · asked by janine e 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I would like answers from other women thats why this site is called answers????
2006-09-03 03:25:28 · update #1
It scares me as i hate hospitals, needles the site of blood and the smell of the hospitals. I would love one but if i was put to sleep then woken up in my own home with my little baby.
2006-09-03 03:38:21 · update #2
The time i went into labour i had every drug going the pain was so bad, I hated the needles and the waiting. I did just wanted to be put to sleep and have a c section but the thought of that scared me. I had stitches and was bleeding for awhile. The the baby blues set in. Think ive put myself off the idear now!
2006-09-03 03:55:29 · update #3
Maybe it's difficult for me as I've never had a baby, but if you want a baby you are probably going to have to go through labour. A Caesarean section wouldn't be the answer I think, as I've heard women saying they are in agony for days afterwards anyway. Once the baby is born, you'll have a gorgeous little son or daughter, and the labour will soon be forgotten.
As for the timescale, if you got pregnant now, you would have a newborn just about the time your toddler is starting the legendary Terrible Twos, wouldn't you? Still, who knows, maybe a new sibling would help your child through that time, if he or she feels important to you and feels mummy and the baby need him/her. Once your baby is born, I recommend you tell your older child (and get your family and friends to echo this when talking to him/her) how lucky the baby is to have such a lovely big brother/sister, maybe how the baby will really look up to him/her because of (oh sod this him/her business!) how clever he is etc.
Good luck, and kiss the sprog for me when it's born!
2006-09-03 03:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by Specsy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Janine,
I have just posted a question on the internet and consequently read yours! If it is really only labour stopping you then let me assure you as a Mum of 4. My first and second baby have only 14months between the two, yes planned! I was in labour for 2 days with my first and yes truly thought my body was splitting in two and I was going to die, however with my second child it was completely completely different. It seems as though your body has done it once and is kind of geared up for it. Maybe its because the birth canal has already been stretched once, who knows? Dont be scared of labour a second time around it is so so different.Good luck in your decision
Julie x
2006-09-03 10:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Julie C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the thought of labor is the ONLY thing stopping you, then why not? They have things to take care of the pain. I guess you have to ask yourself if having another baby with the man you love is worth that time of pain, that they say you forget about as soon as you see your baby. (I don't know that part, but I know when I was in maternity ward and heard the women in labor I was glad I had a c-section! lol!) You seem to have some doubts, and well, I guess if you have to ask, then you probably aren't ready for another. But God Bless you and yours, and good luck in whatever you decide. I hope this helps.
2006-09-03 10:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by vspaulo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband both want another baby then go for it you've had one baby already but that doesn't mean that the second birth will be the same with each pregnancy it can be so different
You could talk it over with your health visitor to talk about your fears there's no rush take your time to you feel ready
2006-09-03 10:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by miakaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the rush? if your not sure dont have one! wait! theres no rush at all. you shouldnt rush into decisions like this. you will be bringing another person into this world. you should feel happy to have another child, not in two minds! please think about it. there are so many people (mainly younger mums) who arent ready for a child, but might regret it later. im not saying you will, just to think about it. you have plenty of time, try maybe next year? you might change your mind by next year. dont let anything push you into having a baby if you not entirely sure. x
2006-09-03 12:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by ms_jaffa_cake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also terrified of labour, but my desire for a child is stronger than my fear of labour. Try talking it over with your health visitor at your local GP clinic, in my experience they are really helpful and will talk you through your fears and your different options. Good luck!
2006-09-03 10:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Bailey P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly want another baby and you think you can handle it, I wouldn't let anything stand in your way. When it is all said and done and you are holding that new baby...will it have all been worth what you went throught to get it.
2006-09-03 11:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by Donna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was the same the 2nd time, the first time you go in blind
i had an epidural and this helped alot
discuss with your doctor ask any second mum and they feel the same
2006-09-03 10:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by SammyD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have it . it is not nice to not let some 1 have a lif. keep it what could go wrong. i meen look at me iam18 and i've got one. so have it
p.s if you don't have it you may not be able to have any more!
go for it as i said what could go wrong!
2006-09-03 11:47:01 · answer #9 · answered by rhyannon a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask this on line you need a lot of help
2006-09-03 10:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋