Is it okay to get married young?

Question

should i get married to a guy at the age of 18? we've been together for 4 months and we are both 16! he asked me to marry him when we are both 18! i'm happy about it, but is it still wrong! i love him alot and would love to spend the reast of my life with him. I would love to know what people think if they've been there or if they havn't

Answer 1

as long as you are happy together thats all that matters

Answer 2

You seem to be thinking about this carefully which to me is a good thing.

I think I would say we could plan the wedding when we are 18 rather than get married at 18, this will give you 2 years together so you really know if it is what you both want to do.

Planning a wedding is very stressful and it could split you up if you haven't worked on the foundation of your relationships.

Who is to say if it will work or not that depends on the two people involved.
Some couples get married after a whirlwind romance and stay together for life others do that and the marriage fails.
I know people who have been together 15 years get married and end up divorced the next year.

I got married at 19 and had a child at 20,

My marriage lasted 7 years. We were together 10. Do I regret getting married so young or would I change anything if I could probably not. I have 2 great son's from that relationship and wouldn't go back if I could.

I do sometimes feel I should have gone and seen places before having the kids but that is tough.
I think due to ill health I will never be able to do what I could have done when I was younger but I couldn't predict my ill health. I did what I thought was best at the time and hindsight is wonderful but doesn't change things.

I hope this helps :-)

Answer 3

I think that if the two of you wait until you are 18 and you still feel like you want to get married, then you will be of legal age to do so and that is your right.

However, let me just offer you some thoughts to keep in mind.

High school is such a small world. You have, at best, a couple of thousand kids that you see day in day out.
When high school is over you will both enter into the real world - either through college or the work force and you will start to see that the world is made up of millions and millions of people from all walks of life. Many of these people will be new, exciting and attractive to you.
Many of them will have experienced things you will have never even heard of.

I would hate for you two to get married at 18 and then realize at 21 that you have not even had the chance to live yet and here you are in a marriage that you are no longer gung ho about.

I'm not saying that it can't work out, because it certainly can if you both have good heads on your shoulders and realize that you have not had that much life experience at your ages and that life and marriage takes more than just loving each other.
You have to be able to tackle problems together as a team. Problems with money, problems with your children, problems with each other....

I think it's great that youve found someone you truly love and that you're getting to have such an experience but please, for the sake of both of you, think about these things before you make a definite decision.

If you really love each other that much, you can wait at least until you've been out of high school for a year or so.
Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I know at this time in your life, you probably feel like you will never love anyone else the way you love him right now...and that is ok...you probably love him very much...and he probably loves you too....but honey, i am 30 and i got married young, i got divorced young as well.....and i think the problem is, when you turn 21 you will be a completely different person than you are right now and when you turn 25 you will be completely different, you will view things different...you will see at this point know what you will or will not tolerate out of a man....both of you will be different people, that is why young marriages often never work out.....you just become different people....and the older you get you realize that it takes SO MUCH MORE than love to ever make a relationship work......if you love him, stay with him for a couple of years....i would also suggest living together first....you tend to see a side of a person you may not have seen before when you live with them 24/7....believe me, people can put on a good face, even if you think you are with eachother all the time.....I just got out of a 4 year relationship....we were planning our wedding and house shopping, talking about having a baby and everything, he was the man of my dreams....it was a fairy tale, then i found out that he had been living with another woman for almost 6 months......just when you think you know someone....do you really know them?...just please take your time, you have your whole life to be married....make some mistakes, try different relationships, it will help you in the long run......good luck

Answer 5

Well we need to apply a little thought to this are you both going on with your studies? Four months is not very long love is for a lifetime I think it's good to do some living before settling down you need to party have girl friends go to the cinema have a holiday. Ask yourself are you really ready to run a home wash his dirty sox, cook, clean rent a home or buy a home Take note I got married at 19 the first time at 20 I had my first daughter at 23 my second & we didn't make it last. I have two super daughters but it was tough on them it wasn't right & the truth when we began to have problems I just wanted out if you are deeply in love well all I can say is good luck to you both but it's a big commitment you both have so much growing up to do.

Answer 6

At 16 or even at 18, most people are too immature to know and understand completely what marriage entails. Also their development at all levels is not complete. Though it is said that the best friendships are forged in childhood, yet as you grow older it becomes impossible to maintain all such friendships. You might dislike an ex-pal so much that you wonder...at your own choice. Same is the case with marriage. The person ure crazy about today... its not necessary that it will be so when u mature and come into ur own. So people who get married real early get divorced quickly too. If u think u really love this person, hang on... finish ur education, get stable jobs.. and if u stil feel the same way... couple of yrs down the line.... well... go ahead marry him!

Answer 7

You've only been together 4 months and you already know you want to get married? I seriously doubt this relationship will make it until you're both 18, but If it does and you still love eachother this much, go for it. I got married at 18.

Answer 8

Age doesn't always matter when it comes to marraige. I know of people who married young and are still together today, but then there are people who married much later and they are also happy. It depends on you and the person your with and whether or not you are both ready for this type of commitment. Marriage is not something to take lightly. Personally I think it is better to wait till your older when you know what you want out of life.

Answer 9

4 months is not enough lov

i think at least 2 years befor marrige if it is a love marrage of course urs is
i think that u should let him say to u that he wants to marry u i mean any one can come and say i love u
but only 10% mean it

some guys just use women and they love u a lot before marrage but after you'll never know

this is a big disicion for you so be care full it couls be the difference b/t life and death if marrage doesnt go the way it is suppose to

Answer 10

It's amazing what happens to us in life. I was 15 when I met a long term boyfriend. We were together for 8 years and were engaged actually. But, he broke my heart and left me for someone else. You are young, but I would wait even longer to make sure he's right. Sure, you have a wedding, but that is just a day. You have to worry about the rest of your life with this person. And, people change so be prepared for that too.

Answer 11

I was married at 19 and now i am 42 and still married so if your in love go 4 it.