I want to know what my problem is! I am currently living in Japan and a'm unable to verbally excite a girl. I speak fluent Japanese but cannot get this girls attention she belives foriegners are only interested in many relationships, How can I convince her that is not true that my love is genuine.
2006-09-03 03:11:24 · 12 answers · asked by Ben V 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
If you truly want to make her believe, it will require time and effort. Going out of your way and making her feel special. Women respond to love differently (check out the five languages of love book). My daughter just had a beau that sent her flowers, okay that was nice, the neat part was he knew she was tired and had the delivery guy pick her up a cup of coffee with sugar. The littlest things can make the biggest impact. Consistancy is the other big key.
2006-09-03 03:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by freemansfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a lady, but I do live in Japan. I got basic Japanese skills and I know about the gaijin that you speak about. Basically you kinda have to do what the guys who are getting many girlfriends are doing.....no not dating lots of girls.
1) Be the man don't let the woman rule your life
2) Be decisive
3) Make the conversation fun.
4) Don't act like you got something to prove.
Making the conversation fun is easy enough. Start by understanding what's interesting in their life and make a cute comment or question about it.
Anyhow good luck with your girl and life in Japan. BTW I hope you didn't just come for the girls since there is other stuff out here that's cool too.
2006-09-03 03:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by Static__Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply say "I know you probably wont believe this, but i'm going to tell you anyway..." Then end by saying what ever you want her to believe.
My husband used this many times when we first were married that was about 2 years ago now. It worked a lot back then, these days not so much, as i have figured out his great plan. But every now and again he'll try it with a little twist.
So hopefully this works for you.
Good Luck!
2006-09-03 03:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by chiiky25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always wise to keep in mind that women are seldom candid in situations where they don't find the man attractive. Often they'll use an excuse to try to avoid hurting the guy's feelings. But if she's sincere, one of the most effective ways of disarming a person is to express what you think they're feeling. In this case you could say something like "I wouldn't blame you for believing that foreigners are dishonest in romance, because so many of them are."
2006-09-03 03:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetchild Danielle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can make me believe in God, then you have inherent skill.
I have met no man with this ability. My point being;
Women,and men, will believe whatever enhances their perception of reality.
Sorry, but you will only enable her reality to be altered if you can meet her heart and mind on a level playing field. The fact that we all choose to live, alone, on a hill doesn't help. Be creative...
2006-09-03 04:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by CC...x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She knows she is right because right now you are infatuated but soon the mercury of thermometer will come down than what is she going to do. We Asian girls are not used to of flirts. If you call your infatuation Love whether she believes it or not but I am not going to believe because you people are very strange who says that i still love you but we can't live together now (ridiculous) .these types of things doesn't happen here.
2006-09-03 07:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by $ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you've only met one kinda women, shame. But revers phsicolgey work wonders with a little sarcasm. Sorry about the spelling. If you can read it, its not spelled wrong!
2006-09-03 03:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by Gumby G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "I'm lying". All women believe men are liars anyway. That's the only thing they'll believe. That or something else bad.
2006-09-03 03:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by mxzptlk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of trying to convince her why not just show her...love is as love does...so be patient and be considerate and if she is still giving you a hard time ...come back home and see me..we'll practice together.k
2006-09-03 03:17:21 · answer #9 · answered by Roxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to express your feelings verbally. the way you look to her can be enough to make her believe- if your love is really genuine.
2006-09-03 03:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by Zriah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋