how to eliminate the feeling like" what others might think?"?

Question

sometimes i do feel like this"what will others think if i do this" or
"what will others think if i dont do this"
why should we bother about others instead of listening to our own self when we know what we r doing is correct

Answer 1

Going with your instincts is always the best way to go. It will work itself in there and should stop the worries.

Answer 2

In ur place ur right that people think that the thing that u r doing is wrong or something like that which make them to have some fun out of ur work. So dear not to worry as the thing that u have to do is to rely upon ur thoughts, just remember that ur doing the work for u only not for any one else.So why to care about others thought .If u think that ur correct and that is the way to the work then then just go ahead and complete the job.It's a natural tendency of human eing to get involve in other matter and make fun out of them.U should also know that the people who doesn't care about others word who makes fun on their work will always succeed in life whereas this will set an example for the person that if a person insists to do anything he will do that without caring about others......So best of luck and change ur thinking and u will succeed.

Answer 3

I believe that the problem is that we are all a little insecure. What I have done my entire life-and what I have taught my kids-turn that statement around. What do I think of that person. The question should always be "Do I like and respect this person?" NOT "Does this person like me?" You have to ask yourself this question everytime you feel insecure. Ask yourself who you like. Why? Don't worry about what others think of you and you will gain power. A lot of power. In yourself. And in all those around you that are still trying to make everyone like them.
Make sure that EVERY time you start to question yourself-you ask yourself Who do I like? Who do I really want as a friend, Is this some one I can trust? Is this someone I really respect and know will be there for me? Or am I just trying to impress someone that I really don't think I would be comfortable around? We think we want attributes that we don't have. We think that we need to fit in. The funny thing is the most famous-successful-envied people never "fit in". They stood out. That is important. To be you. Let your own being shine-by looking for those people you like-not trying to push yourself into the package that may attract the most people.
Remember that the more people you have in any group-the more average the group. In school we are graded on a scale. Right? Average is a C. Be an A. A isn't average. It is OOUTSTANDING!!!

Answer 4

Hi geeta. What a wonderful question! Just asking it gives you the answer you seek. It means that you are questioning your programming. That's the first step! Like you, I was raised with a built-in program in my head. It was put there by my culture as I grew up. And the little alarm that goes off if I question that program is just what you say: it is the fear of what "people" will think. That's what keeps us in line and limits our own imagination, common sense and self-confidence. You are a good and smart person. It is ok to grow up and leave your childhood program behind. Trust yourself. Make wise choices. And above all, have fun!

Answer 5

To me it sounds a little like depression setting in. Don't bother of what people think of you. Just like you stated in your question listen to yourself. All that matters is how you feel, if you know you are a good person, then you are. Who is going to prove you wrong? Do what comes naturally for you, disregard the rest as long as you not causing anyone harm. Good luck in everything you do.

Answer 6

You are right on, should not care about what others think. Then there is nothing wrong with being considerate of other while making a decisin. How about change the question to:

- What would happen if I do this? What are the consequences?
- Who would my action affect?
- What are my reasons for doing so?

Answer 7

i used to care about what people thought. then i realized that you can never please them. you're not perfect, nor should you be. you will say the wrong thing. you will do the wrong thing. but you know what? at least it will be YOU making the mistakes and NOT you masquerading as someone else making the mistakes.

speak your mind. don't be afraid to say and do what you feel is right for YOU to do, not what THEY think you ought to do.

ever since i became the blunt, strong willed woman that i am today, i have gained friends and made enemies. i have had fun and not had fun.

but i have been happy even when i'm miserable because i know that it is ME living my life and NOT me trying to live someone else's idea of what life is.

Answer 8

we must bother about others even if we know that it is correct becoz it might hurt their feelings!
it is written in the bible do good for every1 even if they may not be good to u!
if still it didnt work,
learn to insult people!
this will help u in becomin fearless
only insult the people u dont like

Answer 9

don't evercare what others might think. do whatever is right 4 u.
say to urself ' i am in the way i want to & i'm happy'
just have this thought in ur mind & don't think of otherpeople. just go by what ur heart says

Answer 10

don't bother bout those who don't care 4 u , only those person matters who luvs u n understands ur needs , listen to them always