I met someone I really like,but I am unhappily married,any suggestions?

Question

I have been in a marriage for a long time but have been so unhappy,we just dont match,I know that the man of my dreams is out there somewhere and even if this one is not it,I really do like him and I think he likes me,we are both married but not happily,now what

Answer 1

Before you start anything with someone else Get Divorced first...If you have been unhappy for along time go ahead and move out and file for a divorce or go to marriage counselor. Good Luck

Answer 2

Hey hon in a situation like this your brain plays tricks on you. First of all understand that old love is not the same as new love. Talk is cheap people can tell you everything you need to hear.you do not need a fling on the side to realize how unhappy you are all this is going to do is make it harder to deal with.The best thing to do is mend what is missing in your marriage and still a chance to be happy ever after.Do not let your new found love influence your decision at what you decide.You need to do this on your own.

Think back to when you first met your husband and started dating was the best feeling in the world. Now you have that feeling with someone else. So one day if you two hook up this new love is going to be old love and you are going to be right back where you are now. Maybe better maybe not.

Just think about it if you go through a divorce do it for you not because you think you have found Mr. perfect

Good luck to you smile be happy!!!

Answer 3

If you are not nor have been happy in your marriage then get out of it now. Do not start another relationship before you settle the one you are in because you'll only hurt yourself in the long run. What about the word divorce don't you get? And two married people who are going to fool around hurt many other people. And the reality is that usually a married man who fools around always says he is unhappy in his marriage. Usually says he and his wife don't even sleep together anymore and if you believe him you are probably conquest number 20. Settle your own problems without turning to someone else and then take a year off from men to learn about yourself. Then consider another relationship with a single or divorced man.

Answer 4

Well first of all, do not cheat on your husband. No matter how unhappy you are. Cheating is the worst thing you could do. Why not talk to your husband and tell him that you are having second thoughts about the marriage. If he agrees, then get a divorce! You shouldn't stay in a marriage if you're not happy. Whatever you do, just don't have an affair.

Answer 5

One step at a time. If you know your marriage is finished, then finish it. Tell your friend you are not available until you do. Be Honorable in all of your dealing, or your new man will never trust you. If he disagrees then he's only interested in getting into your pants and then what, leave you high and dry?

Divorce is one of the hardest things on the human mind there is. This will be a terrible thing to go through. Think well what you do, you won't be able to take it back.

Answer 6

First of all how long has this outside relationship been going on?
Second is this just a "the grass is greener on the other side" thing? All relationships have there ups and downs. before either of you decide to leave your spouses, you should take the time necessary, before pulling the trigger. Once you've made up your mind and you decide to "try to make it work". I wish you "Good Luck" but in your case it sounds that you decided that you're not happy with your spouse, then I believe you should leave, you shouldn't wait, there is no reason for you to wait. If you're not happy, it's time to move on, You only live once and your not getting any younger, but try to make the split as smooth as possible, for the both of you.

"HAVE A GOOD ONE"

Answer 7

Now what? Now,. you throw away your long term marriage, and help break up another, by having an affair with Mr. Wonderful. Then, after you wreck your marriage, and his, you come back here and whine about how your life has been wrecked by a man that is sooooo, intolerant that he left you. You obviously care nothing about others, so you'll do whatever you think will "fulfill" you. Get a divorce, or be a wife. Flirting, screwing around, and behaving like an immature slout isn't the answer.

Answer 8

Well, you need to forget about the someone you met for a while. You have to sit down with your husband and tell him you are not happy. The two of you need to figure out if you are going to try to get happy or work through a divorce. BUT , really. Now is not the time to get a third person involved. It's too painful for everyone.

Answer 9

Best for the both of you to end your marriages before anything else. If your that unhappy in the marriage, then give your spouse their freedom. Then you can pursue each other. It doesn't make it right to see someone else while your married, even if you are unhappy in the marriage.

Answer 10

isn't it weird...when to married people want to have an affair...they both say they are unhappily married...but they are still married...hmmm....OKAY...I'll be nice...First to make this simple...when you first get together...sparks are flying left and right...after a while the sizzle wears out...in a long marriage...it seems like we've talked about everything under the sun....now...nothing left to talk about....we've done everything there is...now nothing left to do...so now...we never talk..never go out...why? because we don't know how to communicate....You are interested in someone else...because you get noticed...you get to share new things...talk about new stuff...someone finds you interesting...In a long marriage...we forget we need to hear/tell those special words...when was the last time you told your husband "HE is Hot"? or.He's the best lover you ever had? Things fizzle out after a while....like suds in the dish water...they sizzle out...what do you do?...add more soap...now get off here...forget about that other guy...and go add some SOAP to the water....