My wife had an extra-marital affair & she has refused to be intimate with me for over 6 years now. Due to my age & other factors, perhaps it's preferable that I don't start afresh with someone new in this lifetime. But there's a Buddhist belief that the last person you think about at the moment of your death will be the closest person you'll ever meet in your next lifetime. So is it all right for me to establish an online friendship with an unmarried lady in this lifetime with the intention of having her as a life-partner in the next lifetime?
2006-09-03 01:38:25 · 25 answers · asked by flowerhorn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure, you are hurting no one, and you have something to live for ...there even may come a day when you will meet this person, maybe yes, maybe no...just be honest in your writing, and hopefully she will be also. Remember, it is very easy to love someone on line, for you do not have to go through the daily hassles of life with them..enjoy the fling....Good luck And I do agree with the new life thing...big time...I just not sure about the "Last thing on your mind" stuff.
2006-09-03 01:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having this online fling makes you just as guilty as your wife and her extra-martial affair. If it isn't working with the wife, be the strong one and end it. She obviously has the morals of a barnyard pig. Don't be like her. Get out, give the miserable woman her freedom, and stop hoping for a better life in the next life, because there isn't a next life to "redo" anything. Once it's done, it's done. Go get your online sweetie for real, stop living in some New Age fantasy and start living in THIS life before it's over.
2006-09-03 02:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me that your wife had an affair and 6 years later she still dont want you. Perhaps you and your wife should get counciling, she may still flinging. Obvioulsy you are not happy or you wouldnt have an online g/f. How does this online g/f feel about you? Do what you need to do to make you happy. But don't wait until the next life, grow some nerve and do it now. what if you live 100 years miserable?
2006-09-03 01:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by STEPHANIE S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realistically, there is only one moment in the whole Universe at a time. That moment passes and changes into new energy forms never to be seen again. For that reason, there is no "next". But sometimes it helps to believe it anyway during our life. I know you feel the pain. Perhaps talk to a councellor? Good luck. Nobody ever said life was fair. You owe it to yourself to seek female companionship.
2006-09-03 01:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by HoneyBearCub 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so do you love ur online girlfriend? does she? if you both feel the same way, the why not have her as a gf. but don't you think ur next lifetime is alittle too far in the future? why can;t you jus be with her now? if you really love each other, wats wrong wit having her a life partner now? but anyway, i'm jus gonna ans de ques : yea, i think it's ok..
all the best with ur relationship :)
2006-09-03 01:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a free man! You should not be condemned for her mistakes. As long as your intentions are good then there's no reason why you can't move on.You are a patient man with an Honorable heart. May the road before you be blessed. Just be carefull.
2006-09-03 03:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by Ceri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure i can answer that question to you, since i'm no Budist, but those are just traditions, some words, some fickle things that cannot be proved until we die. So, i'd say make the most out of this life and if there is an afterlife, make sure to tell me.
2006-09-03 01:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by therifleman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm no longer a guy yet actually. maximum adult males i comprehend do not choose a gf in college because they prefer to settle. they prefer to really pass to golf equipment and stuff and hookup. that is more effective to take excitement in this than a lengthy time period courting, which may have many united statesand downs. from a adult males perspective. as a lady, in college, i does no longer concepts both way.
2016-12-06 05:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice to you bro is two fold, go for the online relationship, God won't punish you for wanting intimacy and love. Now for the hard part, Ask your wife where you stand, why won't she have sex with you and perhaps if she doesn't love you and doesn't want to be married you should consider splitting up and saving yourself from years and years of heartache and bitterness. Good Luck!
2006-09-03 02:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by Red Yellow Feet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, why not. But does this mean that if I think of a Dodge Viper before I die I will get one in my next life? But I dont want my pick-up truck to know, so I just wont tell her about it.
2006-09-03 01:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋