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Question

How many of you believe that at some point in your marriage, dating, or even if you are not married that your spouse cheated
on you?? If they did could you forgive them? Now on the other side
of that coin, what if you cheated would expect them to forgive you?
one last question, If you are married to guy that lies about everything (not literly) can you trust him when he says he has never cheated on you?? things he lies about is like if something
happens one way he will leave out details or for instance he when he gets a job he won't tell what the actual pay is, just stuff like that
so everyone what the do you think??

I have a husband like this and my family says I should leave him, but I don't belive so, what do you think??

I think you have misunderstood the question or maybe I didn't make it clear enough for that I aplogize, I am not worried about my husband cheating on me and I know he's not I just wanted your opionion

Answer 1

Whether or not you are worried about him cheating on you is not the issue. It sounds like you have trust issues that have to be addressed. My ex lied about absolutely everything. It got to the point where he actually got caught in a lie and still denied it.

You are the only one who can decide whether or not you want to live in that kind of reality. If you decide to stay, then don't ever complain about this to anyone again. Once you make a decision, you have to be happy with it. If you can't live with it, don't hum and hah about it. Do something about it and don't second guess yourself.

It took me 15 yrs. to make a decision but once I did I didn't look back and have never been happier. GL

Answer 2

Ofcourse we live in the ~~ Decade of Divorce ~~. Anytime you tell anyone you are unhappy in a marraige, you will get the same answer telling you to leave your spouse. No wonder the divorce rate is this high. If you are unhappy just leave.

Instead family and friends should be supporting you to stay. They should be showing you empathy for feeling like you do. You and your husband should be working on your relationship more than ever. You are expecting a new additon.

But what Moms and Aunts dont tell you is that lots of husbands have cheated. I dont mean always sex, whether it is meeting a girl for a drink, flirting and getting a number. If you suspect your husband of doing this, explain it to him.

Let him know that your body is going through lots of changes. It is going to make your hormones and mind go crazy at times. By no means am I suggesting this is the reason you suspect him cheating or not being honest. What I am getting at is that you two should go to counceling. Not just for this issue, but because for the next three to four years will be the most trying time of your whole relationship. Your spouse needs to be your partner more than ever. He needs to be there emotionally for you as your pregnant and after you bring your baby home. My little guy is three and it is finally easier. Babies are alot of work. You are going to need your husbands full support. God Bless you and good luck,

Dont give up on your marraige. Even if your husband wont go to counceling, go yourself, it may help you sort out your thoughts and not jump into a hasty decision like divorce.

Answer 3

I think you really need to be honest with yourself and the marriage. A lie is a lie. As a woman you have intuition. If you believe deep down, he has cheated then he has. I went through it and I knew he was cheating but kept accepting and not dealing with it. My family was telling me the same and I did not want to listen. Your family loves you and they do not want to see you hurt or used. What I learned about me was I had low self esteem and having this man was the best I could do. Cheating is not an option in any relationship, especially marriage. If you start cheating or cheating because you think he is, then there is no point in staying married. Cheating only complicates the marriage and sooner or later you will get caught. Have you spoken with a professional counselor? If not, maybe you should. I did and it helped tremendously.

Answer 4

In a relationship, trust is always the foundation that will make your relationship work. If you started the relationship without trust then your relationship will definitely be rocky. If he cannot tell you a small detail like how much his salary is, then trust is not there. If my other half cheated on me, I cannot definitely forgive him because he betrayed my trust and that's lost forever. Because of that, I will doubt every move he makes and that is not a healthy relationship. If I cheated on someone else, I don't expect him to forgive me because I betrayed his trust. I know how he feels because what if I were in his shoes. Sometimes you cannot trust the one you love but you can definitely love the one you trust. So think about that. . .

Answer 5

I think you should do what your heart tells you...your family has nothing to lose...and you do. IF he cheats...well, worse things have happened..be happy he is discrete. If he lies, know that he lies and act accordingly...worse things have happened. IT is you that will be alone at the end of the day, not those who tell you to leave. I have been where you are at, knew the score, dealt with it in my own way, and it worked just fine. The only problem I foresee is std's if he is messing around..they are out there big time, and some deadly ones at that.

Answer 6

Trust is one of the most important things in a marriage without trust a relationship will not work. My wife has never cheated, she has had a couple of lovers but I knew about them, and although I didn't want to hear about them I understood. I have had a few lovers also but again it was not cheating as she knew about them and understood. We don't lie to each other because we know that trust once lost is very hard to get back.

Answer 7

Look that's normal for all men with out one single exception for any single man in the whole world .. but the only differnce is in the tactic and the ways .. don't fool yourself around and let your degnity drive you crazy .. or to hell .. men will never accept to be cheated while they always like to keep enough margin of space for their privacy with their lovers or wives to cheat little cheats if no big problems and comments are taking place .. if the woman starts to make problems the lies fast becomes bigger and bigger and deeper to hide ..

So if you feel OK about it .. keep smiling and take it easy or otherwise break yur marriage with tthis man then to break it with the next one shortly after .. and so on ..

Answer 8

Your family does not have to live with him, you do. The decision lies within your heart.
Is he a good man in other ways?
Sex can be just that....sex. If he is involved with someone he has feelings for, then you should really be worried.
But as for what I think...he probably is lying to you.

Answer 9

Find out, be upfront about it. If so find out why (what is he looking for, why whats not right in the marriage) then go from there. Screw what others tell you, its your decision that you have to deal and live with if you make a hasty one

Answer 10

I would never ever stay with anyone who lied and cheated!! Honesty and fidelity are the foundation of any good relationship.