I went to med school but didn't finish, the last year because:
> I got married and i wanted to start a family life. I want to experience being a housewife
>My husband who's a doctor told me i don't have to work as hard, and he wants me at home, being both doctors and not seeing each other, would affect our family life.
( i do agree with him )
2006-09-03 01:32:41 · 18 answers · asked by OnionSkin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well many people that i know told me why i want to put to waste all the years of studying just to be a housewife.
2006-09-03 01:39:16 · update #1
true!!
2006-09-03 01:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well those are great reasons...but if you have kids, they might not see their dad that much because he will be working. Yes, you will be home for them but kids who have a dad usually like to see them alot. However, when you don't have kids, you can try and work at the same facility as your husband and then you can work as a doctor and you could still see your husband. So, there are ways you can work as a doctor or something and then after having the doctor experience having kids and then being a housewife. I'm not saying your husband is wrong, I'm just saying that there are ways that you can use your schooling and have a housewife experience.
2006-09-03 09:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by ...♥melissa♥... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people need to make their own choices as to how to live their lives so I will not tell you whether you should choose between work and being a housewife because I do not think there is a right answer to that.
But I think whatever you choose in life you should at least finish med school and get your diploma. It will give you more independence in the long run.
I think your husband might be being a little bit selfish in this regard. He seems to want you all for himself. He might also want you to have no choices? to be powerless? Or maybe he wants to have a wife that is "less than thim". (I do not know your husband, this is only speculation, please do not take offence.)
If you have your diploma then you can change your mind at any point and just do what you want to do. You can be independent. If you do not have your diploma then you cannot be independent.
You seem to be a clever woman. I think no clever woman is ever happy with being dependant.
Hope this is helpful to you. Best of luck!
2006-09-03 08:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by iamalion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean enough reasons for you not to finish school??? No. I mean if you are happy this way, but your children are going to grow. Are you going to feel fulfilled when they are less dependent on you? Also, how do you feel about it? Would you like to persue your career? I personally think it was a mistake for you to not finish your last year of school to get married. You could have finished one more year, then gotten married. Would you're husband not have married you one year later???? Also, sounds like the he has you right where he wants you...totally dependent on him. Sounds a bit controlling.
Sorry, but from what I've seen in my life, women need to have there on source or way of taking care of themselves. You never know what might happen and you need a plan B, a back up. If anything happened to your husband or you got divorced...and I hope you don't...you won't be able to support yourself. That would be bad. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Finish your education, even if you don't work right now...you may have to in the future or you may want to...and you will be prepared!
2006-09-03 08:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Author Al 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not enough. I would finish the last year. You do not have to practice medicine but finish. How do you know your hubby will be there forever since nothing is forever. If you finish one more year you will always be able to provide for yourself and children. You can volunteer at a children's clinic or something. What are you going to do with yourself when the kids are all grown up ?
2006-09-03 08:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by smooches986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's doesn;t make sense to me at all .. who know you may regeret what you lost .. if he loves you he should help you to secure yourself with such a good creer .. few years after you will become dump housewife with retarded thoughts .. then he will run for another wife and let you in ruin .. save yourself and insist to finish yiour medical school .. if he loves you he should understand the logic ..
2006-09-03 09:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by ohwaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, cause you can finish, and be a doctor, and when you feel like you are ready for a change, than make a family, and live the life, cause then you can always go back to being a doctor, without more schooling........
2006-09-03 10:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by miss.d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. As long both of you have a same goal and agreement.
Whatever decision you and your husband make, it should always be both party win win situation. That's make a happy marriage life.
2006-09-03 08:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by Hetto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it deffends... Look we cannot guarantee everyones life... how about oneday your husband cannot do the work anymore for some reasons (knock on wood) atleast you still have a chance to do it so........regretting is always at the end...
2006-09-03 08:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by lolipop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is a doctor, he can earn enough money for you and your family, have lots of kids, love him, be good and kind to him, what more could a good woman ask for
2006-09-03 08:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter to you, what i, or everyone else say(which most of them are stangers to you), or do you care what does your heart say about this? If you just want a comfirmation, i can't put myself into your shoes to answer that.
2006-09-03 08:36:36 · answer #11 · answered by therifleman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋