I'm in love with a married man who is in his 50s, we decided to not hurt anyone because of our love. Recently i met a good guy and we deicded to be married. we still love each other and dateing. The only cause that i went to the new guy is that i wanted to have a family. New guy loves me. I still love my first love like crazy. My first love is in depression now.
2006-09-03 01:28:59 · 28 answers · asked by merry s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm sorry to hear ur story...
U care alot for the married man and did not want to break up their marriage so u went and married someone else....u thought this would sort the problem out but u still love the other married man..
U do think alot about others but what about u?
Forget about these two men and think about what would u like to be happy in life?
Wouldn't u love to have a peaceful life til the end with someone who is going to be there for u. As u get older u can not risk putting emotional pressure on others to gain what u want.
U need to be strong and be honest with the new guy about ur feelings...u have a very high risk of losing this new guy..
Everyone falls in love once in their life but never end up with them...so really u need to concentrate on the people who r in ur life now...
If by fate ur r destined to be with this other married man then things will happen...u need to show respect to the man's wife who has given all her life to this man.
Doesn't she deserve some peace and happiness in her life?
Sorry hope this helps....good luck
2006-09-03 03:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not get married!! Tell the "good guy" that you aren't ready and figure out your feelings before doing anything. Wanting a family is not a good reason to get married. You have to want to be with HIM and the family will follow. If you are in love with another man, you would do yourself and your finance a terrible injustice by marrying. Don't do it!
2006-09-03 02:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said you're in love with the first guy...the married guy....duhhh...that's not encourageable. And then you met this 2nd guy and again, you said you're in love with him.Are you sure you know the meaning of love??? You can't love two guys at the same time! Make up your mind!!! But If I were you, I would just forget the married guy...he got a wife and family!!! Don't be such a home wrecker!!!!
2006-09-03 04:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by babe_of_spanish_gladiator69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well,looks like you are already taking judy girls advise and are playing the both of them anyway,typical player/chancer/user scenario...from the female of the species this time!!You are using people,people have feelings you know-including men-so your going to use some one just because YOU want a family?I sometimes dont believe the cheek of you morons,i really dont.Some one else said on here that you should have a connection with a bridge-please make it a very high one...and take that bloody judy girl with you,and do us all a favour.
2006-09-03 02:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get your stuff together and then jump off a bridge and make the world a better place.
One is married. Fool ! He is married.
You want a family. What are you say to your children. He is Dad, No I mean here is Dad. Oh I really don't know who your farther is.
Grow up and make some choices.
2006-09-03 02:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to fallow the one who can give you what you want. The married man , how would you like it if you were is wife right now. cheating and sleeping with some other women. he needs to figure some things out and you need to move on. it you do deiced to get married you better be faithful.
2006-09-03 03:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you have taken a wise decision by moving on from the earlier guy,cos he is married has spent more than ha;f of his life with his wife and family,now just becos he is getting older he needed some spice and so he wants you,dont allow anyone to take advantage of you......
about this new guy,its more imp for your partner to love you more than you,just be humble and love him in return,no everyone gets such opportunities in life to start a fresh...go ahead and get married and respect the one who wants to give you a family!!
2006-09-03 03:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marry the single one and forget the married one.
2006-09-03 08:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no morals or ethics. You are NOT a candidate for being a good wife. For that matter you aren't even a good girlfriend. You have made yourself into a piece of meat.
Like all meat it will spoil and go rancid. Change your ways or you will have no one.
2006-09-03 01:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have a very good mate Mr X whom is now his ex-wife Ms Y had sexual relationship with another man... lets call him Mr Lewinsky. he found out only after he had the child tested and found out it wasn't his child. bad news hey, but good news is he is a lawyer and ...
moral of the story - divorce ain't so pretty and it don't look like love no more.
2006-09-03 01:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by Typical-1981 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋