i know there are lots of moms, or single moms here and single dads as well..i waited for 4 years for my ex to change..but i realize..maybe you cant change a persons soul..
he cheats a lot, but the thing is i used to cheat a lot when i was younger but only because i knew i really didnt want to have a serious relationship ..and i have changed when i met him ..we have a baby now but he still hasnt changed. it pretty much still hurts since i "need" to keep in touch in order to get child support.
i am thinking of buying my freedom, and not taking his child support. i suppose it could help me get over him quickly : (
sorry if this question annoys you but i would appreciate kind answers, thank you.
2006-09-03 00:57:32 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldnt know, My ex got over on me, because she never had anything to do with the kids and never paid support either
2006-09-03 01:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you think that you would be trading your freedom for child support? Your child deserves the support of both parents and this would make him grow up. Remember what is happening between you and him is exactly between you and him and not you him and your child. Make sure that he is a part of your child's life. As for getting over him that will take time and nobody here can tell you how to do it as everyone is different. Just make sure that you focus on your baby and yourself and don't date seriously for a year. Also as your "need" to keep in touch for child support this can be done through family court and they can send you a check for what he pays so you do not need to see him on a regular basis, and you could appoint a third party to do the exchanges for visitation with him. Good luck to you
2006-09-09 06:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not- I repeat- do not stop accepting child support from your ex. His financial duty to his child has nothing to do your lingering romantic feelings for him. Hopefully his child support is court ordered and not just a friendly arrangement between the two of you depending upon how generous he is feeling that week or how he feels about you. You cannot "buy your freedom" by forfeiting child support. He will always be the child's father no matter what.
The best way to get over an ex?
1. Get out there and find a better man, one who is deserving of a fine woman like yourself. Nothing like a new boyfriend to get over an old one.
2.Use your mind! you control your own thoughts. When movies of your ex start playing in your head- change the channel and think of something else. Stop giving him "space in your head".
3.Plunge into physical activity- exercise or housework, or get a hobby. Anything to get the endorphins flowing
Stop pining for that crumb of a man!
2006-09-03 08:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by cherylville2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH how I wished my husband ex wife could be bought out. But in reality that isn't the answer either. You saying that you need to keep in touch with him for child support , is an excuse to stay in touch. Every time to feel the need to see him or talk to him, for what ever reason, you are hurting yourself. Why do you want to set yourself up for hurt?? You wont be able to heal or find peace, with the fact that your marriage or relationship is over. I feel for you. I believe we all have been in the same place as you. Finding respect and love for yourself, is the first step. Take it. You deserve better. Know that. Have him deposit his child support in your account or mail it to you, what ever is easier for you. Child visitation. If you are dropping your child off, don't get out of the car. or take someone with you to take the child in the house. ask the same from him. IN time it will get easier and you will get stronger.
2006-09-03 08:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is a long time he wont change keep the support you need it for the baby well all you can do is think about the bad times you had with him when you settle down think of what you want out of life then go for it it all takes a lot of time to get over things like that and its hard on you just think of the baby and the life you and the baby want and live it my g\f passed away on me no time to say good by so you see things are not to bad for you and later on in life you will some one that will be good for you you good luck to you
2006-09-03 08:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give up your right for support (financially). There is unfortunately no magic way to get over an ex. even when you finally get over the pain you still have the memories. Better yourself by taking classes to get a better job or make changes to your lifestyle. In other words don't give him the satisfaction of thinking you can't do without him in every aspect. You can improve your life and feel better about yourself and your confidence grows. Hope it helps.
2006-09-03 08:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by D baby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to get over a ex that you love and you will never forget him, But move on with your life and DON'T give up the child support, he helped make the baby so he can help raise it....Put it away for your baby's education if you don't need it.
2006-09-03 08:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by Happy_Wheatland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your question annoys me- very much. Unless you are so rich you have no use for more money, the child support helps provide for your child. Why deprive them of the benefits of money? If you can get along by yourself- great. Take all the child support, and bank it. Then, when your child is ready for college, they will be able to go, and not end up having to repay thousands in student loans. Money is important, so take it- for your child.
2006-09-03 08:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i never really got over my x not totally but i would never go back after all i now know that she did behind my back for years. keep the money and start looking for another man to fill emty spot . im single and live alone feel free to contact me . i give good advice but have trouble takeing my own oh yea i love kids too .i pay 375 a month myself and am proud to say ive never missed a single check here but it hurts loseing the one i loved and also paying for you journey into darkness but alas its her choice and im better off for sure . dont lose hope lots of good men still left that need a loveing women in their life just start looking and next man might help you with your heartful feelings for your x.
2006-09-08 13:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by sigmond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will always be in touch due to the children, and for petes sake do not abandon the child support. But to answer the question, time, time and time -----life goes on and so will yours as will his---you are young and will find someone , just be patient, and when you do your feeling about him will change.
2006-09-08 14:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by vivib 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋