Someone in my family has all the symptoms of depression but just won't get help.
The question is simple: how do I convince her to get help? How do I make her admit she needs it? Because everytime I or someone else in the family tries, she denies having any problems. And the psychologist I know said he can't help me as long as he doesn't talk to her first (and I totally agree, that's not the problem). But how do I make her accept it?
2006-09-03 00:36:49 · 11 answers · asked by Laura 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
First of all keep showing her you care & don't give up on her but I just don't think you're going to be able to convince her of anything. Sometimes people have to realize things all on their own. She knows it already but is denying it to anyone else. She's just got to work through things & believe me it's hard & scary, but something will happen that will make her want to get help. Just be patient & keep letting her know you care & are there for her. B/c she'll feel safer about taking the first step b/c she's got you. Hope she gets to feeling better! Keep caring!
2006-09-03 03:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you may have to do some mythbusting here. Some people percieve depression as a weakness and are stigmatised by it. A useful exercise may be to research all the famous and brilliant people that have been affected by it such as Winston Churchill and Robert Oppenheimer (A-Bomb). You will find someone that she can identify with. A list is avalable at Wilkipedia.
The first time I developed depression I had no idea that I was ill. These days I can recognise the symptoms and avoid it getting worse. You need to present evidence to this person. Depression is generally characterized by classic, unmistakable symptoms that will seem as obvious as obvious with hindsight. The onset of my depression was so gradual that it was imperceptible to me at the time. My girlfriend identified the problem and made me go to the doctor. She did not allow me to play down my symptoms and did most of the talking at which my doctor presented evidence that my symptoms were classic and text book.
2006-09-03 17:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by bolters37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no experience in talking to people with depression but I hope my suggestion helps..
It is extremely important to put her at ease and not defensive when you talk to her. Talk to her in a environment she is comfortable in. Timing is important too. Choose a time when both of you are unlikely to be disturbed.
Tell her gently how her symptoms worry you and the rest of the family. It helps to show your weakness and expressed how badly affected YOU are. If she loves you as much as you love her, she will agree to seek help for your sake.
2006-09-03 08:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by Maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the worst thing a person under depression can do is be alone. they have more time to think about whatever thier thinking which is not good. being closer to the person is better as it becomes more personal (only way of making her accept it).
tell her that you care and it'd emotionally hurt 'self' to see him that way. discussing the problem is not always the go 'seek professional help for that'
you need to bring the joy back in his/her life somehow, go outdoors and do more "positive" things, 3d cimema, rock climbing, swimming, join a social club (salsa dancing is sweet!).
2006-09-03 08:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by Typical-1981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try getting someone closer to her to help her. like perhaps a boyfren to convince her of her condition?
another way would be to leave her on her own? i'd been in depression for more than a month but i did eventually manage to shake off the depressive feeling. thou there were people like my frens who kept an eye on me that i didnt do anything silly.
otherwise. try getting a blog or some form of diary to write the feelings only for her eyes to see......
2006-09-03 08:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some reading material. You can usually find tons of pamplets from drug companies in any psychiatrists's office. Once he reads about it, the symptoms and treatment maybe he will get help. If not that is his choice. To you, I recommend reading about codependency. It may really help you to understand you and your worries.
2006-09-03 09:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by peaches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't! It's their depression, you can certainly express your concern and offer your support but they must decide that they want to make a change in their life. You have to take care of yourself and not become a co-dependant.
2006-09-03 07:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Timothy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had depesion and lots of other stuff,i got by it all by myself and never told a sole so i wouldent know,when i think about it im 1 tough basted some of the things iv bin through.now i live an happy life with a nice girlfreind and im always happy,tel your freind its a battle up there in his head he just has to win,if he carnt he gets help.
2006-09-03 07:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by stoke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a video of the person along with her problems you know about, to a psychiatrist so that he can refer some kind of interim medicine, then after it works you can coax her to visit the doctor after telling her how she has partially overcome it, i think then she will agree to come over
2006-09-03 08:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by handsomedev2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person must first want to help themselves. I can not make a person get help. You can intervene if they become sucidial.
2006-09-03 12:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋