i have been married for two years but my in-laws
are intervening now and then. result is that my marriage is
on road to break up. i love her very much. both have great sex
life. no kids till now. She has filed a complaint against me.
is divorce the answer
2006-09-03 00:33:06 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it has been long time that she has not communicated with me. i love her a lot but seems she does not love me. my in-laws are very uncoperative. what should i do
2006-09-03 00:48:17 · update #1
hey ur question is in splits. first u say ur r not comfortable with ur in laws and again u said ur wife has filed a complaint against u.
so r u in problem with both den divorce is the only answer. but if only in laws are a problem move away from them and sort out any misconceptions with your wife(if any).
Hope ur marriage stays
2006-09-03 00:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by farru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have one life to live ,why would you want to live in misery?
If you have no children,get a divorce now..or otherwise you will be paying child support for the next 21 years of your life..and believe me it is a big chunk of money,not to mention alimony for the first few years.
Get a lawyer and file for divorce and make plans to move out and be single.
Do it before it is too late,and she takes you to the cleaners. Do not let her have the edge and time to think her strategy,she is already starting her case by filing a complaint against you..that is in her favor and will not look good when she files for divorce which I am sure she is probably doing.
Don't be a fool..leave now..
You can't win against her family,her family has too much influence on her it sounds like,and they are probably schooling her and probably already have told her that they help her in the divorce.
First thing I would do is cancel any joint accounts you might have ,and take your possessions with you ,leave when she is not home,otherwise say goodbye to all your possessions because you will never see them again once you walk out the door.
Good luck!
p.s. after reading most of the replies to your answer in favor of you not leaving...don't listen to them...You will be the loser if you do,,mark my words..women are vicious animals,they are counting on your good nature .so that they set you up for the kill ,.you will be the lamb being sent to slaughter ..dont' let that happen to yourself..
Walk out and breathe the free air and start fresh
2006-09-03 07:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce should be on the cards only if the two of you see no other way,,two years is not a long time in married life and sometimes it can take in-laws time to learn their place where their child is concerned,,talk to your wife,air your grievances,talk from the heart,,if nothing is hidden then the two of you can work out whether or not things could change and work for the better,,without the tough times how will you know the good?you are still a couple,learn how to talk,,and if you do decide to divorce it will at least be because you both understand it is for the best and not because neither of you tried to be honest with your feelings.
2006-09-03 07:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not divorce. the Bible teaches us that, "What God has put together (in marriage), let no man put apart", and "God hates divorce". if you both divorce, then when you find another man/woman to marry or live with, you're both committing adultery against each other and that's VERY serious.
there's got to be a RIGHT way to solve your problem but divorce shouldn't be in the option. all married couples go through hardships and problems like that, especially during the first few years of marriage. but divorce isnt the solution. those problems are supposed to be there to make your relationship strong, rather than break it apart.
2006-09-03 07:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what the complaint is about - if the relationship becomes so rocky you can't see any way of continuing it, then a divorce would be the way to go. If she stops communicating with you, and acts like a cow about everything, I'd say screw it. Divorce comes with crazy-intense feelings of regret, sadness, guilt - all that fun stuff...but its like getting an injection, ok? The build up and apprehension about doing it is scary...more scary than the actual thing.
If it gets so bad you just can't deal with any of it anymore, free yourself from it - you deserve more than that.
2006-09-03 07:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by band_camp_dork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a worst legal option 1 takes try to sort out with ur wife and b happy learn to live better socially "pray @least once in a day will keep divorce away":P:P
2006-09-03 07:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by ♥bin ladin♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Indian society yes! we have to respect the in-laws. But in the changing scenario, if they do not deserve to be respected it never matters a lot to them and to you. Iceberg of the situation is that you are losing your bonding esteem with your wife while living separate from her. Get associated with your wife never to bother about your inlaws. Live a successfull married life.
2006-09-04 03:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by yash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is NEVER good. At best, divorce is less terrible than staying with the wrong person. Sadly, it takes two to make a marriage work, but only one to wreck it.
2006-09-03 08:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is not the solution. Go to your in-laws family,sit with them and sort out the problem. In case every goes on well good otherwise i strongely recommed for divorce
2006-09-07 06:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by mathrubootham g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so, sne u lov her u will always tend to.....even if u remarry the smell of her love wil always have frangnance around u and u will compare your "hope not" to be spouse with yuor earier exp. better talk staight to ur betterhalf first then with her help say your inlaws, to control their interferences in your life,,,i think divorce is and should be the last option to be opened..may god bless your relationship
2006-09-03 07:41:52 · answer #10 · answered by nitinjaimini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋