I loathe it when my partner ignores me. We have had a really tough time recently and all we have done is argue.. Im suffering from post traumatic stress due to a recent health scare which nearly left me dead and all i do is pick faults. Its all my fault but i hate it when he ignores me. Ive tried to make amends but he still gives me the silent treatment. He was there for me 100% during my heart surgery etc which is why im finding it difficult to cope without him around!! Ive come to stay at my mums cos i cant stand him ignoring me!!
2006-09-03 00:27:16 · 14 answers · asked by carolina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sometimes he could be suffering from the same thing.. the possibility of losing someone you love is a huge emotional thing to go through. I would simply tell him that you are there for him and how much it meant that he was there for you through your health scare. Find ways to communicate, allow him to speak what he is feeling and simply just do the same he did for you - be there. He may not feel that he is getting it from you but that is at no fault of yours. Having Post Traumatic Stress is really hard to get through as well and that goes away with time and sometimes seeking counseling may help as well.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-03 00:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD! That is the only thing I truly have asked my partner NO matter what. DON'T IGNORE ME.. Do they listen??
Am sorry that you have had your health scare. May be you should seek some outside help. Maybe he needs some space, he has been though a lot as well. Give him some time, I don't know, if moving out was a good idea, but don't stay gone to long. Take this time to deal with your issues, your faults. Get your body and mind stronger so that you know how to cope with out him.or with him , you sound a little needy. In the mean time mail him ,I am thinking about you card, call and leave sweet and thoughtful messages or play a verse of a love song. go over when he is not there, make sure he has dinner, little things can be said without a work. Good luck
2006-09-03 00:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably ignoring u because he doesn't know what to do or say to help u and by u arguing is only going to drive him away further. Staying at your mum's might be a good idea for now to allow u some space in between to sort things out.
2006-09-03 00:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it seems difficult! i've had things in my life obviously not as tough as this. Please dont think i want you to get hurt because i dont, the advice i am going to give you is this, try talking to him even if it ends up in an arguement try and make him see that this is all hurting you and in a weird sort of way breaking your heart more! he should understand that its been a tough time for you and hurting you is just makeing your life hell! Like i said i dont want you to think i am being horrible, but he does need to realise just how important he is to you and you need all the love and support you can get right now!
All the best for the future and if you want to talk to me my email address is gm15@hotmail.co.uk
All my love and thoughts
Gemma x
2006-09-03 00:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open communication is the key. And accept that you were wrong and apologize. Explain your condition to him but try your best to improve the situation. You cannot use the surgery as an excuse to pick faults... it may be helpful to see a therapists too.
Walking away will not resolve the issue. It may get worst if he realizes he does not need you. so, dont waste any moment. It does not hurt to humble yourself for the one you love. goodluck!
2006-09-03 00:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by spam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, i do not "deal" with it very well at all. It just makes you want to know why you are being ignored ...if you are like me...you know you shouldn't but you are compelled to send messages or emails...why why why are you ignoring me. which doesn't do anything but make him ignore me even longer....
I call it the "Silent Treatment".... which ii do not understand , despise and consider it a form of punishement...
You cant get him to stop...it is a coping method for men....
2006-09-03 00:36:38 · answer #6 · answered by Just2See 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your very last sentence is the crux of the count number. before you abandon the attempt with him you need to attempt ignoring him even as he's in a unmarried of his moods. do not be accessible, do not answer the phone, pass out procuring for hours at a time yet do not element out the position you're going, pass out to dinner with some girlfriends. If he complains about it, ask him why he cares. If he would not whinge about it, perchance that is time to pass on.
2016-12-06 05:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you two have to talk. Mightbe u done something wrong. Whatever happens, Do Not Argue. It makes matters worst. Try to be patient. All the best to ypu.
2006-09-03 03:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man can only take so much that you put to him maybe he don't want to talk to you just to stop the fights you should be glad that he stayed with you when YOU needed him that maybe why he don't want to talk to you YOU hurt him that way. YOU let him know that you liked it when he was by your side let HIM know that you loved that and that YOU love him and all ways will stop giving him the crap
2006-09-03 01:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly dont show him that u r sad bcoz of his this type of attitude.
now make him realise that u r most important part of his life then just watch beebee!!!!!
2006-09-03 00:41:54 · answer #10 · answered by spicyyy g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋