I have a friend and he has taken on more responsibility on the job. Over the past few months his communication has been short and sweet. Before we could talk for hours about everything. Even the last time we spoke I could actually hear the stress in his voice. Apparently it seems he barely has time for anything...I dont like it. Should I tell him how I feel about this or just drop it and forget the friendship?
2006-09-03 00:16:33 · 9 answers · asked by rosesbeautifullove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
give him time to deal with these new responsibilities. solving problems at work are probably on his mind a lot. basic personalities don't change. once he's used to his new role at work, he'll become more of himself again.
2006-09-03 00:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by Debi K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though your friend's lack of attention has resulted from him taking on more responsibility on the job. Since you mentioned this and is aware of this, there should be no doubt that this is the reason his communication has been short and (you admit)sweet. I dont see any reason to forget the friendship, but you have to be more understanding. The next time you speak to your friend, express this by simply telling him, I know you have been busy, but I miss you..then come up with a scheduled date and time that you can get together with him. When people are busy, they tend to work more on a schedule. Until he gets used to the new responsibilities, be a true friend by being understanding and supportive.
2006-09-03 00:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by xxxoldheadxxx2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the friendship with this guy is something special to you (like you see him as a real friend) then I would make it a point to bring it up and let him know that you are worried about him and that you don't want to loose your friendship. Rather than forgetting it altogether.
More specifically I'd be careful how I broach the subject with this person because it might put someone on the defense. I know with myself the other person would have to say what they want carefully.
Perhaps you should say lets get together or somethign and when you are in private ask him how he's doing, and when he is done talking tell him that you've been seeing the stress in his features and in his voice and that you've been worried about him. That he means something to you and you don't want to see him hurt.
Thats what I would do in this situation. Hope this helps.
2006-09-03 00:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by leoangeldust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see from a previous question you asked three months ago, that you are a divorced mother of two, and despite having many friends, you went through a very lonely period.
Does this new found friend help you to get over your loneliness; and is he good for your kids?
I think they are the factors that you need to consider to be the most important.
I guess what it comes down to, is what you want from your relationship with him.
If you are hoping for a long-term commitment from him, then you should by all means talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Tell him that you miss not being able to talk to him the way you used to be able to. Ask him what he sees as being the future for you and him. (Perhaps his taking on the extra responsibility was aimed at trying to make a better life for the two of you).
Anyway, unless you talk to him about it, you are not going to know.
I hope it goes well for you!!!
2006-09-03 00:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always best to discuss a matter rather than ignore it. The real question is how much effort to spend on the converation.
If you really value this relationship, and want it to continue, then prepare for an important conversation. It might go something like this:
I really value you and our relationship. I want it to continue but I feel that you no longer have time for me. I need to feel valued too and I want you to understand that and try to find time for me in your busy life.
2006-09-03 00:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by Chuck N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should understand him and what he's going through right now. your friendship may mean more to him than you know and breaking friendship with him will only cause him additional stresses in his life. if you really care about him, you'd give him his space and just continue to remind him every now and then that you're still around for him anytime he needs you. that's what true friends are for.
2006-09-03 00:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I would let him know that I'm missing the talks we had and tell him how I feel.
..then ask him to give me a ring when he has time - without any negative or demanding undertone.
Good luck
2006-09-03 00:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by unusual1959 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your asking that it must not be a very good friendship anyway.
2006-09-03 00:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Sammy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try get him to go out for a night with you to relax and have fun if he refuses call to his house with a few beers
2006-09-03 00:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by angel 36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋