to go out to the bar with his friend and not come hom til the next day? The bar he went to is in another town 25 miles away. I know he is with his friend and not cheating on me, I just talked to both of them and they are staying at his friends house
2006-09-02 23:29:02 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His friend lives 25 miles away and he came out here unannounced. they said that they were going to the local bar and would be back in a couple of hours. My husband left in his friends vehicle with him, so there is no way that he would be driving drunk. We have enough money so he could ride a cab home, but he won't...... I am not "allowed" to do things like this or to even go to a bar without him. I have never given him a reason not to trust me.
thanks for all the answers
2006-09-03 00:26:54 · update #1
one more thing...... He does this on a monthly basis
2006-09-03 00:30:12 · update #2
This should be OK. Not all the time, but perhaps once or twice a year. Not weekly, or even monthly, but occasionally. I used to get together with a friend I've known since my days in the military. During a ten year span, I stayed over 2-3 different times- because we drank waaaay too much to drive. He also stayed at our place about the same number of times, due to overindulging. We used to get together WITH our families quite often. Our wifes were friends, and our children got along well. Assuming your spouse hasn't given you cause to suspect cheating, relax. This also assumes , that YOU could do the same thing, if you got together with an old friend.
2006-09-02 23:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say whether it is right or wrong. If he was drunk would you want him driving 25 miles to get home. If you know he is not cheating on you, that is one thing you do not have to worry about. When a man gets married and has a family I don't think he needs to be going out all night and staying out. He should be at home with his family. I know when I have children I won't be out all night at the bar. I'm not saying I won't go to the bar, I will just come home.
2006-09-03 06:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by deathdealer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, it sounds strange...why 25 miles away? I'm not going to jump to conclusions just yet unless there's more proof but I would be concerned if it was my husband and he has to drive the 25 miles to get home while drunk. But then again, could that be the reason why he stayed at his friends overnight because he was too drunk to drive home? If it happens only once in a blue moon, there's probably nothing going on but if it happens often, I would be worried.
2006-09-03 06:52:35 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real? How would your husband feel if you decided to go to a bar 25 miles away and stay at your "friend's" house overnight? I don't think that it would go over too well. Just because a man is with his best friend does'nt mean that he is not cheating. I have a friend who is with a married man and she hangs out with him and his best friend and his girlfriend. Watch out and take care of yourself and your children. Be mindful of the things that go on around you and you have every right to question your husband on his whereabouts. You should not feel guilty and you should not have to ask anyone on Yahoo answers about what your husband is doing if everything is so alright. Something is wrong and trust your gut on this one.
2006-09-03 06:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by laneljade1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it seldom happens, don't worry. Guys are guys. They need to refresh themselves from a hard day's work at times. Let him do some rewinding with his friends without you saying any word about it. Just tell him that if ever he won't come home, he should inform you about it so that you will not worry about him.
But if he does that more often than necessary, you may tell him that somehow you don't like what he is doing and tell him why such as the shorter time he stays with his family, the risks of going home drunk, so on and so forth. You have the right to tell him those things being his wife. Good luck.
2006-09-03 06:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off honey if he was cheating his stupid friend won't tell you the turth and now he should be at home with his family unless he works a very stressful job and you are a stay at home mom then sure take the dog collar off and let him walk free for a bit but if you both work then you need to schedule you a date and time where you go out with your friends and if you don't feel like it b/c going out aint your thing pick a day to pamper yourself away from the kids all adults need their time may be he has found his and you need to find yours ~~~~~Good Luck
2006-09-03 06:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by p-nut butter princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he can do it then you need to start doing it also. Next time you leave to go to the store, let himknow that you will be dropping in to a bar. Then call a few hours later and tell him you are spendin the night somewhere. Maybe if you do it to him he will realize that its not nice.
2006-09-03 07:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all need to get away for some me time but it should be few are far between because of the responsibilities etc. If it bothers you then tell him. personally I would rather stay home with the family because that is what means the world to me. Good luck.
2006-09-03 07:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just not right actually maybe it just became fun to them drinking but do you want to risk his life driving or going home late at night when his drunk just try to understand him and talk to him about his limitations in drinking that way both of you can breath normally ok
2006-09-03 06:32:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was boys weekend away ok but not just go to a bar i would be curious are they in trouble why did they go that far away. If they had been drinking ok safer to stay than drive.
2006-09-03 06:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋