i mean as you get older, does life go down different paths and open up new experiences. or does it become more settled / predictable as u mature
2006-09-02 23:25:23 · 9 answers · asked by jay Lo 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
my life has been a rollercoaster of sorts. i started out in the food industry as an employee. when i became a manager, i thought i was made. then i got married and was told to quit working. i became a mom and i also thought that that's how i'll end-- a housewife till i die. not that i dont like it-- i loved being a mom. the predictability was easy; and i didnt have to work. it was an easy life.
then my kid died and i went back to the university to get a second degree as a therapy-- or i'll go insane. that set a new direction in my life. im in a totally different field now but i love what im doing. i've made a name in my new field and im happy. am i stable? no. are my days predictable? no. do i love it? yes! the daily challenges keep me going, finding a new purpose for my continued existence.
2006-09-02 23:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you learn from your experiences then you grow. You grow wiser and make less of the same mistakes again. You can just settle for what you have or embrace what is now termed "lifelong learning". I educate myself and will continue probably until I die or go completely bloody senile. Life is so boring if you become predictable. That is what the "establishment" want. they want to know how you are going to vote, what you're having for lunch. what you're thinking and how they can control your behaviour. they do control our behaviour more and more as we get older. Kids can do so much more and get away with it. You can maybe get away with running naked at 6 years old - but try it at 60 years old! I'm not a Marxist by any means. but Marx had a lot to say about the way the "establishment" controls the people. I had an email from a young person in China. Studying, 10 to 12 hours a day for a "glorious future". I was enjoying life, sort of, at that age - at least trying to! A lot of what will actually happen in the future will depend upon luck - luck largely determines your health and that has a major impact on your life. You may stay healthy and live until you're 100. But like the 100 year old guy said "If I'd known I was going to live this long, I'd have looked after myself better". So I'd advise against drugs, smoking and excessive alcohol and advise a healthy lifestyle. It may help. But if you get run over by a bus, worrying about it - that sort of messes up the plan a little.
2006-09-03 01:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mike10613 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you grow older you usually learn how to appreciate the richness of life more, when you have more time to notice it because your not rushing around all the time. All of life is wonderfull and blooming but the trick is to actually SEE it. Once you start to see life it is never predictable
2006-09-06 08:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the main examples is pregnancy , one of the most life changing events that psychologically impacts everyone in that particular family group. Lifes direction is forever impacted and then when the raising of the child is a whole new psychological dilemma!
2006-09-03 00:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your life goes through phases.......but the common thread, running through all your experiences....is you! I am in my fifties and in my head am the same person who was a child, teenager, young adult, mum of babies, kids adults. nervous probationer teacher to promotion etc. The common thread is you....... but your sense of yourself changes and modifies as life educates and moulds you. Stay in touch with all the phases you have lived through and allow them and the experience they have given you to influence the relationships you have and the choices you make. My life is as predictable and as unpredictable as I allow it to be. I feel a sense of serenity, wisdom and confidence that I never had in my younger days. I no longer allow people to walk over me and my feelings the way I did when I was young but have the ability to sort these kinds of situations assertively without doing damage to the other person's sense of self.
Don't be afraid of getting older. Enjoy the process of life and what each phase brings and adds to you. If you see people whom you consider to be staid, predictable, and set in their ways, with limited opportunities......... you can bet your boots that's just how they want it to be!
2006-09-02 23:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mary F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At age 37 I left my cosy marriage and drove to Greece where I spent a year.
It is also where I met my second husband who later tried to kill me.
Age 47 I packed my kids into a car, drove away and lived in a women's refuge.
If you had told me at 36, I would never have believed you
2006-09-06 23:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the person, I don't think that anyone could generalize about this. My life has done both. It has kept changing, but has also become more stable.
2006-09-02 23:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on so many things. But what you do, what you say, how you react, has a 100% effect/affect on our lives. choices we make, if we think before we make them....
2006-09-02 23:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take up gardening.
2006-09-02 23:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Cheese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋