she said she is going to leave me if i dont stop being a pole dancer,but i buy her things with my money and she doesnt mind.last xmas i bought her a mercedes slk.help what should i do?
2006-09-02 22:33:45 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Dump her and come and live with me. What a treat: a pole-dancing, Mercedes-buying lesbian ~ must be every man's dream
2006-09-02 22:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by kytho 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lisa r,
Well lisa r, it sounds lie a really simple thing, actually. Do you value pole dancing more than you relationship with your girlfriend? Selfish? Maybe. But what do you want? By the way, if you are a poledancer, how many more Mercedes are you able to buy?
If you stop being a poledancer, do you have something else you can make money in? Or will she have to support the both of you for a while? Or does she even work? And why now is she being demanding. Does she suspect that you are fooling around with some of the people that you meet at the club?
All these questions, I may never see an answer to, but I think that they are valid in the determination of your choice.
2006-09-02 22:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if the green eyed monster has finally bitten her in the butt. She knows what you do for a living (and for the life of me, I can't understand why people seem to find it so distasteful) and enjoys the benefits of the job. There's no other way to put this, so I hope I don't offend you. But she might be wondering if pole dancing is all you do....She might be pretty insecure. But that is no reason to tell you what to do, or how to live your life. Talk to her. Tell her you love her and you don't understand why she wants you to quit when she so obviously enjoys the end results (i.e. money). Tell her that you trust her, and you need her to trust you. If she can't do it, then there are deeper issues than you being a pole dancer.
2006-09-03 07:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pole dancing isn't a lifelong career anyway. At least not many make it for a lot of years. So sooner or later it will end. Start to think about what other skills you have, and then sit down with her and talk seriously about how you will maintain your standard of living on the wages you'll make as a ....whatever.
Maybe the Mercedes isn't important to her. She likes it, she drives it, but maybe she'd be just as happy in a three year old Jetta, if she had more of you.
2006-09-03 01:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What part of the pole dancing situation does she have a problem with? The hours you work? Where you work?( It is obviously upscale if you make that kind of money.) Other people looking at your body? The fact that you are probably arouse other people? Find out what the real problem is and then address it from a more specific direction.
2006-09-02 22:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by Hidisar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it jealously? What other options are available to you jobwise if you leave? Talk to her about it. And tell her that if she wants you to give it up that much, that you need her to give back the merc etc. to tide you 2 over till you get a new job.
Jokin, I think she is being selfish a bit, as she knew what your profession was before you 2 got together. Talk to her and find out her reasons, though I don't think she should be giving you ultimatums like that!
2006-09-03 01:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by Carly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is more about you than your GF... You like the easy money of pole dancing... and apparently she doesn't care for the person she is with doing that for a living... So the decision boils down to what matters more to you... Your GF or the easy money...
2006-09-03 02:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by deakjone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious... I am involved with a pole dancer,she's the best.Sounds like your girl may be jealous or a control freak,why would she want you to give it up,I bet you love your job,get yourself a new girlfriend.Dont buy her !
2006-09-03 00:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by raven jack. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I could see a problem if you were a prostitute or something, but a pole dancer? come on...it's an art form believe it or not, you actually need to know what your doing in order to do it.
Talk to your girlfriend, see what exactly is her problem and address it, if she wants you to end your career, tell her to back off, and it's over.
2006-09-03 01:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by David G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
kiddo, almost everything anybody ever does or will do can be considered selfish at some level. Perhaps try communicating with your gf... cause maybe it isn't about what you can buy for her. maybe her emotional needs are bigger than material things.
in the same instant you call her selfish
she could justify the same to you..
communicate..
2006-09-03 05:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Selfish isn't the word but I think insecure might be. Maybe she just worries that you are public property. We have to do what makes US happy in this life. It's no good trying to live your life for other people. If she can't handle it, then maybe she needs to think about what SHE needs to do to make herself happy. Also, do you think you are buying her stuff to keep her...? Just a thought.
2006-09-03 02:16:53 · answer #11 · answered by Boingy Tigger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋