that is the question that is bugging me at the moment..Just not sure if I wanna live or die in Pakistan..I live in Australia was born here and not a Muslim...but willing to convert b/c I love my guy Also we have an age difference...like Im more than half his age..or thereabouts..Im just worried about reaction with us marrying.His mother is 5 years older than me.This and so many issues..Myabe I'm not asking...just needing reassurance. This is soo hard for me..I really don't know what Im to do. we do intend on marrying too, Please help THANX in advance
2006-09-02 22:13:05 · 18 answers · asked by Mona Lisa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I heard horror stories about western women marrying, and converting to Islam because of love. Once you convert, and, most dangerously, once you move into Pakistan ( or any Muslim nation ) you will be at the mercy not only of your husband masculine supremacy culture, but at the mercy of the laws of those places that treat women as posessions. If you want to end up enslaved into a house, covered in cloths like a tent, and beaten if a stranger man even takes a glimpse of your face...then comite suicide and marry, convert to Islam and move to Pakistan.
Do not say nobody warned you, you are giving yourself up to the devil
2006-09-02 22:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by CALIENTE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can suggest is to do a thorough research on the religion and the country u will be living in and decide for yourself if this is the kind of lifestyle u are willing to live with. Don't rush into marriage unless you're 100% sure u can hold up your end of the bargain.
2006-09-03 05:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convert for the love of Islam, marry if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person and go with him to Pakistan if that's where you want to spend the rest of your life. Adjusting to Pakistan will be a nightmare for a long time but if you're willing to work hard, you'll get used to it but Pakistani society is not very forgiving of wives being older than their husbands.
2006-09-03 05:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you will listen to me. Please. I'm telling you from experience. DO NOT marry and move to Pakistan. DO NOT. The age, the religion, the culture, the traditions, ALL of this WILL be a problem. All I can say, is I hope you change your mind. Your scenario is the same as mine was, just a different country, I married him. BIGGEST mistake I have ever made in my life. The BIGGEST. As you said, sooooooooo many issues. They will come back to haunt you. Believe me.
2006-09-03 11:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, go for it. You might encounter difficulties at first, but they'll probably disappear over time. If you don't get along, you can go back to your regular life. If you don't marry him, you'll probably ask yourself for the rest of your life, "What would've happened if I did? Was he the man for me?" and you'll never know. Inicidentally, I believe Muslim men are allowed to marry Jewish or Christian women. You don't HAVE to convert. It's just an option for you. Pakistan is inferior, however, to the West, when it comes to civilization and technology, so unless this change of environment is a big issue to you and you're phobic of culture shock, go for it.
2006-09-03 07:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by Psychotic Clown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow ur heart Islam its a religion who make a good place for woman he protect woman but their is some wrong thinking about Islam.just follow ur heart and don't be afraid.
even i am a Muslim girl i don't like to go to Pakistan everrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
read some books about Islam from good writers
2006-09-03 06:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by cutiegirl_5454 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pls. take more time to dicide coz marrying the person we love is perfect but remember if u make mistake it takes a while to recover.muslim is also human being the differnt is what they believe and what u believe..in other words is just a relegions.and age is a big deal also here it depends how long is the gap...
think about it
2006-09-03 05:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy's prsonality matters not his age nor his religion and be in Pakistan only if he can defend u from the rest of the world.
2006-09-03 07:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never let the love of a person decide what you believe on a spiritual level. You will regret it. You should decide your spiritual beliefs first then find someone who believes the same as you. That way if the relationship goes south your entire identity isn't based on that relationship.
2006-09-03 05:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by RedC. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you certainly can marry a Muslim, can get converted as well, but Pakistan is not a good place to live.
2006-09-03 06:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by Smiling face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋