I've recently started seeing a bloke for just over a month now. Everything was great. I knew he liked weed - but didn't know it was like the way it is..... He won't see me unless hes got some weed to smoke when he's with me. Which means i haven't seen him for a few weeks now.........
I really don't know what to do. It was ok to start with now its like he'lld rather have smoke then see me . What can i do .... i have tempations to leave him and to find someone else . HE gives no no attention and seems like he don't care ........
What shall i do ......... ??????? he says he does care
2006-09-02 21:27:44 · 38 answers · asked by ruby 1 in Health ➔ Alternative Medicine
You should leave him as he should prefer you to anything like that.Go and find somebody else who cares about you.
2006-09-02 21:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by delta9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend smoked weed for 15 years and has now stopped. He was exactly the same though and would not go anywhere unless he had some. We have been together for seven years and I have discovered that he has a very addictive personality. He said he used to smoke weed to make him feel 'nice' but really it is because he wanted to get away from the 'real world' avoiding any problems and people and if he did see people he would be very socially inept.
There is no answer really to your question as he will not stop smoking weed until he is ready to stop, The question is do you start smoking weed to become part of that side of his life or do you reject it all together and end the relationship?
I joined in for a while and we smoked together for 5 years, I stopped because I got pregnant and that made Him stop to (not what I think you should do obviously) but I don't think he would have stopped otherwise.
Good Luck
2006-09-02 21:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by celiachic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't seen him for weeks then he's not your boyfriend. For many weed is a gateway drug, even if it's not one for him, it will still bar him from passing a drug test to get a good job, and although some pot-heads are doctors, lawyers and bankers, many more are just plain stoners with a bleak and limited future. I suspect your boyfriend has another girl or just isn't interested. Either way, there is no future with someone so emotionally detatched that they haven't seen you in weeks. The pain is too much, the best way to get over an old love is to find a new one. He's not worth the heartache you are suffering. I'm sorry.
2006-09-02 21:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by Doctor ~W. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now what is your deep down gut reaction? I guess it's natural to want to believe that someone cares about a person or that he cares about you. But do you honestly believe that he does? Your "temptations" are telling you that this relationship is a lie. What should you do? Run, don't walk, as far and as fast as you can away from this person. Don't look back don't feel guilty don't feel remorse. If you have these doubts after only a month then you'll have very grave regrets if you stay around him any longer.
Go find someone else! You deserve better. Find someone who is clean and sober who will treat you with the respect you deserve. If it takes time to do so then so be it. Take the time. Because believe me you do not want this kind of corruption in your life. Demand the best for yourself and don't feel selfish for doing so.
2006-09-02 22:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVE IN TO THE TEMPTATION TO LEAVE HIM. AND STAY GONE FROM HIM!
If he cares more about getting high, that should tell you how much you rate compared to his high. If you don't use weed already he will soon be asking you to try it also. When you get upset about the stink and the risk to your legal standing he will get defensive or lash out at you to try making you the bad guy in this scenario.
Does he tell you that he just can't relax without it? That he just 'functions better' when he's high? Why does he feel the need to smoke it around you?
You've got your answer in your own words "He gives no attention and seems like he don't care"
Bail from this guy, don't agree to hold on to or carry anything for him.
2006-09-02 21:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by txczech2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weed or not...you do not sound happy with this man. It doesn't seem worth the effort to invest in this type of relationship, when there are periods of time, without valid reason, that you two go two weeks without seeing each other.
Move on now, since it will be no easier as time goes on. If nothing else, just chalk it up as incompatibility. You two are obviously looking for different things in a relationship.
2006-09-02 21:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by akice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he's going to say that he cares, but he also cares for his weed as well ... too much, in fact.
I would guess that his weed is way too important a thing in his life to give up. It may come that he'll have to decide which goes first, the weed or you. Maybe you should put that to him now. It would be awful for you to keep giving to the relationship without getting anything in return.
2006-09-03 17:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by micksmixxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not see you unless he is stoned, he is obviously not really seeing you at all.
Smoking cannabis, taking other drugs and drinking to excess are just ways of avoiding reality.
In truth, you can do nothing about him, but you can take more control of your own life. If you allow this to continue you willl just get resentful about his not being there and that would not be good for you. Find someone that you feel you would get on with, not someone that will end up making you feel like you do not count. You do and need to know that you are worth more than he is willing to give.
2006-09-02 21:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by Phil J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he does care but you guys only been together for a month and i think hes nervous around you still and the weed calms him down and makes him feel comfortable around you. If you want to leave him because of his problem, you can because you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and find someone that can respect you the way you want to be respected......
2006-09-02 21:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by 007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does NOT care. Why are you wasting your time with such a loser? He's probably a cheater, too. Gosh, just heap the problems on you more. That just doesn't make sense.
Lose the loser right now. Never call him again, never see him again, never talk to him again. Just pretend he doesn't exist and guess what? He'll probably hardly even notice anyway.
You need to work on your feelings of self-worth before you go seeking out another "man".
2006-09-02 21:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Right now. Not only is this person ruining his life, he will ruin yours too. What caring is there if he puts the weed first? He's obviously using you, not caring about how special you are and basically just screwing up big time. I suggest you bail before he pulls you down too.
2006-09-02 21:31:58 · answer #11 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋