2006-09-02 20:39:46 · 13 answers · asked by john_0502000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no , we really never want to know even if we say we do .
2006-09-02 21:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by bonnie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How will it 'benefit' this particular time in your marriage to bring up past relationships? If you have already 'generalized' by admitting to past sexual relations, she would not be surprised for example if you had a knock on the door by someone saying 'Hi, Dad!" If you feel there is benefit or will help in any way with something that may come up in the future, then tell. May not be great, but maybe honest.
2006-09-02 20:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is always the best way to go. If you are in a serious relationship, everything should be out in the open. as they saying goes, if you're having sex with someone, you are also having sex with all their previous partners...so it makes sense to want to know who, and how many. its good to get the testing done, because you never know whats out there...and who has it...so its a great percaution to take.just remember, that if you are honest in the beginning, then there is nothing that can slip out later, and get things all messed up. there is never anything wrong with telling the truth, its the safest way to go. so yes, i think that these things should be told to your partner, because its only safe, and also respectful to each of you. hope that helps...good luck
2006-09-02 22:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell about your past to your partner. But, i believe it's better if you tell it before the mariage. In a situation like this, I would just mention it and not go on the details. I am sure you would do the same, otherwise she (wife/gf) will become jealous. I am not interested to know about the past of my partner. because I need not to bother it if she is not carrying the past feelings in her mind.
2006-09-02 21:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by Atique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd honestly say only if she asked specifically. Yes, truth is a must in a relationship, but baring all is like asking for trouble. No newly married woman wants to hear "Hey honey, before you I used to do kinky stuff with a stripper" - thats a GREAT way to start your married life together.
Tell selected details only, there's probably stuff she did that you don't want to know about either.
2006-09-03 00:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by band_camp_dork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be open and honest with her. I wouldn't dwell on it (i.e. why you left, how was good in bed, what you liked/disliked about the ex, etc.). I guess my advice is, tell her only if you are willing to find out about her pre-marital relations.
2006-09-02 20:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wld suggest you telling her everything abt ur premarital affairs becoz you surely wld'nt want things to fall apart afta ur marriage juz becoz of your dishonesty! Honesty is the MOST VITAL issue in a marriage or relationship. Don't you wish ur partner to tell you her pasts too? No women or men liked to be kept in the dark. If ur concerns or fears are abt her leaving you afta ur confession, I still think it's better to let her know than keeping her in darkness forever. This is worse than a failure in a marriage! Think abt it and do try to let ur partner know ur pasts and ur great honesty to tell her now! hope she'll undstd and forgive ur pasts!
2006-09-02 20:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on your wife.
If your wife is really interested to know about your past relationship, she will ask you. Then, it would be wise to tell her the truth, keep it simple and do not brag about them.
If your wife doesn't want to know about your past relationship, it is OK to keep your past to yourself.
The key is not being secretive.
2006-09-02 20:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by gelo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Under two conditions: If she asks you and if your past will affect the current relationship. Othewise just let the past be the past. It could only end up doing more harm than good.
2006-09-02 21:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complete truth is always a must in a relationship. Don't endulge in them though. Just ask if she wants to know.
2006-09-02 20:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Seraphim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a very important part of a relationship. Don't get too specific, you don't want to make her jealous.
2006-09-02 20:47:26 · answer #11 · answered by Curiousmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋