my twin sister is fuming about this . i don't wanna hurt either of them . what do i do?
2006-09-02 20:18:56 · 26 answers · asked by reality 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you're in love, your sister should accept it and be happy for you, whatever the guy's race, culture or colour, if she's not she is hurting you and not the other way around.
Sit down and talk to her and find out exactly what she's fuming about, is it his colour, race or culture, is it the fact that you are twins and that she is not ready for separation yet, is she just jealous, or is there something about this guy that she doesn't like independently of race or culture.
If it's something independent you may want to analyze it if it's not then don't let others rule your life, whoever it may be, follow your own mind and heart and you can't go wrong.
2006-09-02 20:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Auntie Alex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing going out with some one of a different race is not an easy thing. You'll have to be ready to deal with a lot, and so will he your race will talk about you may even be some name calling, The same thing will happen to him. There's one thing you didn't mention and that is your age that has a lot to do with you decision weather you believe it or not. Look it may not be an answer but I no what I'm talking about I went through it. If you want to know more my address is posted
2006-09-02 20:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean she is also in love with the same man. You have to think twice. I have relatives who are married for long years already and they are happy but they have very different cultural background and my sister is married to an American, she is Asian. There are interracial relationships that works great. You have to consider language barrier (if there is at all), your cultural traditions if its similar or will you be able to accept that or do compromise on things, etc. It all boils down to understanding the person whom you love and accepting them as they are. Maybe they will improve and so will you. - yunesa@yahoo.com
2006-09-02 20:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is powerful. It is much easier to be "in love" with someone who is more "like" you, than "unlike" you. Race is not as severe a factor - as culture. Being too different adds many dynamics to relationships - and makes "understanding" almost impossible. There are so many factors involved. You need to examine your situation carefully and honestly. If you are truly "in love" then nothing else will matter, and you and he will overcome any obstacles that arise. If you are "infatuated" you will end up making everyone miserable - including yourself.
2006-09-02 20:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, I thought it was 2006 and not 1956. When will the character of the person that your family member or loved one be the most important thing? As long as it's the same race and the opposite gender than who cares about how they treat the person I care about? Doesn't that sound stupid?
2006-09-02 20:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love knows no boundaries... racial, cultural, national, linguistical or otherwise. If you really love him, make your sister understand this, and stick with your guy.
Love is blind indeed. Who cares what the social differences are between you two? The only thing that matters is that you love each other.
2006-09-02 20:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Eclipse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with that because if you both love each other, and thats all that matter, no matter how people look, talk, and no matter that cannot judge about who you are in love with, i understand you dont want to hurt your sister, but your cant make your decisions for you, and she cant tell you who and what to love. follow your heart, and pray about it , and promise you god will see you through and always love your sister nomatter how she feels or what she says, only god knows what is right for everybody, just pray and you will find your answer.
2006-09-02 20:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by #1 mother2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your life not hers, dont let others make choices for you. If you and the guy end up being together and happy with each other, dont let your sister stop you. If she cant accept it then she isnt being a real sister. Shes in the wrong here not you.
2006-09-02 20:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to the other people that are telling you to stick to your own race. DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO. there is nothing wrong with it. your sister just needs to let you live your life. i hope you have a great life with the guy. i wish you all the best.
2006-09-02 20:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to We've Got a Long Way to Go by Gwen Stefani. It was really inspirational to me. Follow your heart!
2006-09-02 20:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋