my husband suffers from depression and panic attacks. he has had one everynight this week. he cries and gets shakey and cant stop. he is on anti-depressants called citalopram, and even using adivent during panic attacks to try to calm down, lately nothing works. i told him to talk to the doctor when he took our 6mth old in for his needle. he didnt tell him, but i found out from my mom who went with him that he was asking the doctors how to fix his balding that has begone. i dont know is it a self esteem issue is that why he cries. i have tried to help but have been not trying as much anymore, i just leave him alone when he has one, now he thinks i dont care. how do i get my husband back, this isnt how he was when we started out, he doesnt work, and sleeps alot i feel he has giving up and thinks he future is crap. he is only 25 what do i do...has anyone had to deal with this b4....HELP ME PLEASE!
please dont give rude answers this is my life i am dealing with...
thank you!
2006-09-02 19:46:11 · 13 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO COUNSELLING RIGHT NOW HE QUIT WHEN HIS COUNSELLOR RETIRED!
2006-09-02 20:01:56 · update #1
yes we have had a few bumps in the road..our 1st son died in the hospital and we found out he was healthy as can be, but the intervenence in his belly button caused a clot to go to his heart, and they told us they couldnt save him and he died in our arms.......and since then actually things seemed to go slowly down hill more and more...then last year the man who he considered a father to him died from cancer, so he does have some things that could have did this to him, and he wont stop talking about death, he is scared to die he told me.
2006-09-02 21:14:31 · update #2
DON'T Give UP on him !!
My husband is not currently being treated for depression and panic attacks BUT his are symptoms of an acoustic shock injury ...to which he will not be receiving treatment for till next month ...
He is employed at a call center where he was injured on the phone ... So I have been living with a depressed , anxiety ridden male for almost a year now who does not like excessive noise
first off I would like to ask you if anything similar has happened to your husband ? think girl think !! or did something traumatic happen that threw him into this ...
Sad to say thing but you yourself need to be on top of his treatments and not trust him to talk to the doctors and have to be up on any treatments that they are offering . He should be seeing a counselor frequently by letting him go untreated your making matters worse ..
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Tammy,
I got your note ...BOY do you have your work cut out for you. He is crying out for help. Even if it doesn't look that way
Promise me you will contact his GP to get him on a stable medication yourself plus your local mental health to get a list of counselors who would be able to see him ...
I say a list because you need to call their offices and tell them just what has been going on including his counselor retiring on him ... that he has not improved and a treatment plan needs to be worked out for him ..Not all counselors treat the same way ...
I know its hard .. but you wont be alone and guess what somewhere in that mess is the guy you loved enough to marry :) he just needs to clear away all that has been piled on him ...
(((Healing hugs )))
( ..... contact me again with an email if you would like )
R
2006-09-02 20:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his meds are not helping him you may want to consider a second opinion with another doctor. I don't know if he's seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist at the moment but if not, you may want to look into it. Obviously there is a cause for his depression and panic attacks and from my experience working in the med field it is a very hard thing to overcome and deal with and takes a long time to do so but it's not incurable. So pls consider a second or even a third opinion on the matter, preferably with a psychiatrist or counselor. Good luck.
2006-09-03 02:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds sound like he's not stabilized on his meds. You need to call someone asap, his psychiatrist and relate the info. No one should have to suffer like that. Some people are misdiagnosed and sometimes a new and better doctor with a new treatment plan can make all the difference. There might be a hotline you can call if you can't get to his regular doc right now.
2006-09-03 03:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is seriously depressed. He needs to speak to a doctor and get counselling. Pills are fine for masking symptoms, but they aren't going to do much unless he finds out what the probably is and what is causing it.
2006-09-03 02:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have mom watch the baby while you go to the doctor with him. Tell him that he needs help getting his medication regulated.
2006-09-03 02:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by charlies mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is WAY beyond Yahoo answers. He need a psychiatrist. (Not a psychologist.)
Sounds like he needs to be on something else, or he's having a drug interaction.
2006-09-03 02:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by Pepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be very patient and supportive! you have to show him how much you love and care for him!at the same time you must be positive and strong! you must tell him how wonderful he is!and how lucky you are to have him!he needs to feel good about himself! he needs to feel wanted!! you have to give him a reason to live!!
2006-09-03 06:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by pricebazoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
understand and diagnise his problem very keenly without ego in you and it will take sometime but you can reduce your time with love and effection and live according to his phsycology and think from his point of view,the problem is solved
2006-09-03 02:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by raghu k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far as i can tell you is to be supported and looking for doctor or someone that can help in this type of situation.
2006-09-03 03:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am the same situation just be patient and understanding talk to Dr in person with him
2006-09-03 03:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by mm W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋