is it bad for my child if i tell him fantastic stories as reasons as to why complicated things happen?

Question

how wrong or in what ways is it wrong for my child if i answer him his "how does this work/happen" questions with fantasy reasons
for example, if he asks me "why r there bubbles in the champagne?" would it be bad if i answered him something like "there's tiny tiny kids swimming in there and blowing bubbles"
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ok i dont actually have a baby yet, but i think about it often, and i wondered this

Answer 1

Yes and no. I sometimes tell my kids the same kinds of things, but then I tell them, Mommy's just kidding, and I explain to them how things actually work. I don't want my kids growing up with delusions on how things really work, but I don't want to crush their imagination either. So if you want to make up stories to entertain your kids and get them to laugh, that's okay, but I would tell them the real story afterward so they don't go off and actually believe that there are kids in champagne blowing bubbles. Just a thought.

Answer 2

I don't really think so. I mean you might tell the child a fantasy story as to why complicated things happen. But the child will eventually grow up and find the truth on its own. Which is good because it allows them to question your fantasy tale and seek the truth. Good work dude! Of course when they are little you can tell them fantasy stories to get them to do things......like stay away from the stove....because a wicked witch will reach out and grab them if they get too close.....

Your story was cool. But what would you say if the kid asked something like, why do the real tiny kids get to swim in it and I don't? and Can I have a taste?

Answer 3

Well I guess when they aren't old enough to completely understand it yet than it's okay, but if they're old enough to understand it then you should let them know the truth that way they don't go to school saying that "champagne has bubbles in it because tiny kinds are swimming and blowing bubbles in it".

Answer 4

Actually, my husband and I did this all the time as our son was growing up, and he isn't scarred by it at all. He's a teen now, and we tell him some of the things we used to explain to him and he thinks it's funny - and remembers some of them and how he wondered why we answered him so outrageously. It was our way of having fun, and we made sure he didn't embarrass himself with others.

Answer 5

Absolutely NOT. Hell, if you come up with enough good stories for all the bad stuff in the world, write a book to give us some ideas.

Answer 6

yes it is totally wrong, give him truth and expect truth , you cant lie to your boss etc, or arent supposed to , this is not a puppy, its a small human being, and he will eventually figure you are full of crap then he wont believe anything you say. wake up you are training a human being, if you dont know come to the computer and look it up on line and maybe both of you will learn something.

Answer 7

Those kinds of ideas beat the heck out of most stories in the Bible. And they make a lot more sense, too.

Answer 8

Do you want your child to tell fantastic stories about how the window got broken, how about how he broke his arm? The truth is always the best policy...even if it is complicated.

Answer 9

my mom used to tell me I would burn forever in hell if I stole or lied because god would be mad at me but if I were good Santa was watching and he'd give me whatever I wanted.
I came out pretty screwed up and loved to try to prove that god and santa are not real.

Answer 10

i think if your child is asking you, tell him the truth. save your funny stories for when you initiate things. you really do want to help your future child negotiate the world and being all full of phony fun facts won't help.