if no one knows your gay how do you brake it to them, and i mean no one?

Answer 1

Hi right here on yahoo under the heading Cultures and Groups you may find some more informed answers to this particular question. Go and check it out.......I think the first heading is Society & Culture, and then Cultures and Groups and you should be able to find your way from there.....Let me know if this helps.

Answer 2

Being straight, I'm in a poor position to offer advice. However, I can imagine that it could be one of the most difficult things imaginable. I wonder if reading about others' experiences would help?

I did a little looking around and found a few things. I don't know how good they are. One is a guide on About.com called "How to come out of the closet". I kind of don't like the fact that the publisher of this guide requires an email address to send it out, though.

Gayprideneworleans has a brief, bulleted set of points that may be helpful.

Wikipedia has an article which mentions that a common place to start is with a trusted friend or family member, and that it's a continuing process as one encounters new people and situations.

It might be worth seeing if there are any local chapters of organizations like the Gay and Lesbian Alliance. (I may be remembering the name wrong.) You might be able to meet other people who've been in a similar situation and hear how they handled it.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

You must be a pretty good actor- if NOBODY has a clue... Assuming that you HAVE won an Oscar for best straight man in a gay mans life, -I suggest you tell your closest family members FIRST, then your best friends, semi-friends, & down the line. Don't fudge the issue; tell them the truth- how long you've known it & whatnot...- and keep a bottle of smelling salts handy- just in case. At the very least- you'll feel better that you're acting days are over.

Answer 4

It all depends on your living environment. I would say tell your family first as long as they arn't crazy religious people that would completely lose it. I mean you are who you are and people just need to accept it. Like it or not.

You cant go around forever holding it in either thats alot of weight on your shoulders.

I always liked the line from one of those molly ringwald movies (my wife is obsessed with the 80's) think it went like this
"I'm pregnant can you pass the beats" good luck

Answer 5

No One? Then surely there is no problem because that would mean even you don't know that you are gay! So maybe your not really and are just having some self confidence issues!

Answer 6

trust me im sure someone knows... something called gay-dar most chubby girls who have gay friends can spot a gay man a mile away even the closet ones. besides im sure at least God knows.... so someone does

Answer 7

well first of all you need to decide if you really want to tell someone....there is nothing wrong with being in the closet...if you've decided you want and need to tell someone i would choose the friend you think you are closest with that you think would still accept you if they know you're gay...it's a HUGE thing....don't do it before you're really ready!!

Answer 8

you might need to lay it to them gently. don't be a shocker like IM GAY! Just say it properly and hope that they'd accept you no matter what.

Answer 9

Here's a helpful site:

http://www.gmhp.demon.co.uk/coming-out/comeout.html

Answer 10

i guess honesty is the best policy...
get them to sit down..and then tell them..
but u haf to be brave to face the outcomes...