my boyfriend and i had an argument 1 week ago, i must admit it was my fault he found out that i was chatting with others but i don't flirt with them. we had a fight and he said he wants me to leave him alone and he wants peace of mind so i gave it to him i didn't try to call him for 1 week already and no communications at all,,, but then again i miss him so much so i decided to call him but he didn't answer.. do you think he doesn't want me at all? do you think he's not going to talk to me anymore? what do you think im going to do to win him back coz i love him so much??
2006-09-02 19:29:28 · 25 answers · asked by honeyko_japan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Men are basic! Usually, their actions tell it all. If they want you to leave them alone - they let you know. BUT they also love the chase, so don't do anything to make him think you want to reconcile. Wait it out!!!! (It's tough, but it is the only thing that will work.) The more you push - the further away he will get!
2006-09-02 19:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved him like you say you do, you would not have been setting him up to be jealous or making him feel he could not trust you. He might not like you anymore but if he really does, give him time and let him call you. Then apologize big time and no more chatting with other guys. You will only push him farther away if you keep calling. When you called, did you leave a message and say you were sorry? If you did not, then do it the old fashioned way and buy him a really nice "I'm Sorry" card and send it to him. It is less stressful for him. Make sure you say it was all your fault and you know you were wrong. He may not respond. So learn from this.
2006-09-02 19:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..........."i was chatting with others but i don't flirt with them.........
It is probably because he doesnt believe you. You know him better than we do, so only you know what will turn him around. If you really want to get back with him, pressure him. But if you want things to be "Right" if you get back together with him, give him a little space. Just leave messages such as, "I just saw a ____ and it made me think of you......hope you are well and call me if your feeling up to it....."
I'm not a pro, so you'll have to decide what to say, but if you really pressure him into to getting back together, even if he decides to, he wont feel right. Thats why you two need a little time. Even though your innocent, he still needs time to sort things out.
PLUS, DO YOU WANT AN INSECURE DUDE? If he has a problem listening to you now, what will happen further down the road when big problems come about. Space is good. Just let him know that you still love him, and if he's secure and mature enough, he'll come around.
2006-09-02 19:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by diaz276 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasonable explanations why he didn't answer. Maybe he wasn't home or he was busy or @ work, etc. Leave him a message, if u didn't already. He'll come around eventually. Perhaps he's still angry. Whatever the case is, just go about ur own business. Don't think about it. If u've been together 4 a long time and he loves u, he wouldn't let u down like that. Let him call u back. Good blessings!
2006-09-02 19:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play to his game, if he said don't call him and to leave him alone, DO IT. Some men always use that because they know you will call anyways. If you believe that you didn't do anything wrong and you really didn't do anything wrong, then screw him for not believing you. There are others out there. So don't call or go to see him,wait he'll be callin you like crazy when you don't call him.
2006-09-02 19:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Tarabeara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok how long have yall been datin???...it sounds to me like its over...call one more time...if he doesnt answer than just let it be n try to move on...there will be more guys on ur way... n if he wanted to end up the relationship just cuz u chattin wit other guys dan hes either exagerating and the jealous type (better off without) or he just didnt love u n hes using dat as an excuse
2006-09-02 19:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is avoiding you tht implies he's still angry but still wants you. So you shud continue & try 2 speak with him. Do some things that he likes. Tell him that u r sorry . Try to make him feel that you are important to him & everything will b ok. Best of luck!
2006-09-02 19:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by Love to help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try this damn since u a girl i mostly tell this to boys but go up to his house or when u see him sit him down and tell him that am sorry and that stuff like that i mean some people make mistakes just cuase he dont answer the phone dont mean that he probaly still a little mad about it but it dosent hurt to try and just talk to him and see what he does or says !
2006-09-02 19:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by LUIS ROSA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its GREAT that you love someone but if he is rejecting everything you do to try and work things out then he is not worth it im sorry to say that but its true.You can do much better then that, find someone that wont get mad over silly things like that and you shall be much happier :)
2006-09-02 19:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Cheyanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him be for a while as much as you can.
one way or the other he'll come out but if not then this is going towards "the break-up" i dunno just ask some of his friends maybe you'll get some clues why he hasn't been communicating with you...
one way or the other you'll find the answer depending on how much you love him just work it
2006-09-02 19:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by SEDATED 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋