2006-09-02 19:28:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop messing around with him!! Your a bad baaaad girl!
2006-09-02 20:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by wikid14141 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Type a letter. Something like, thought you might want to know (lord knows I would have appreciated it) and mail it from another town.
If it is a close friend be prepared to carry that secret around with you forever and can you do that. Cause once you do it that way it would hurt her to know you couldn't tell her yourself she want to know when and how you found out how long you knew etc. It could really tear a friendship up.
Send an anonymous letter to the husband giving him a dead line to come clean then let her know somehow if he doesn't.
Whatever you do be sure you can handle the consequences.
2006-09-03 02:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by SpecialK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I figured, the posters are telling you not to tell at all. Although I understand why they are saying that, I think it is bad logic.
I don't know if the person who is being cheated on is your friend or not. If not, whatever. However, if you care at all for that person, you should tell her, anonymous or not.
By not telling the spouse what the cheater is doing, you are enabling the cheater to get away with the horrible act. Put yourself in this ladies shoes...if your husband was cheating on you and someone you were close to knew about it, wouldn't you be hurt if they didnt care enough about you to fill you in? Wouldnt you feel like they were, in a round about way, enabling him to get away with this horrible act?
This answer isnt just to the poster....Seriously, how could you look yourself in the mirror if you knew your friends husband or wife was cheating and you didnt care enough about them to deliver the tough news? Furthermore, how could you look your friend in the eye knowing this information and not telling them?
2006-09-03 02:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are the guilty party, then shame on you.
I can understand as a friend your wanting to stay out of it. I myself have been in this situation and its a lose lose situation.
I didn't even directly tell my friend. She asked and I told her to talk to her husband. Long story short. Not only did she quit speaking to me but so did several other mutual friends. I honestly don't know what I would do if given the chance to do it all over again.
Being a wife though, I would want someone to tell me if they knew my husband was screwing around. Not only does it disrespect me but it also puts my physical health at risk.
If you are a friend, and you truly do want to help your friend out, ask her some random questions and feel her out. See how she would handle the situation if it were reversed.
2006-09-03 05:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by jmlmmlmll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why be anonymous? If you are not the guilty party, and you are certain he is cheating. Just tell her. Maybe she already suspects it. Maybe she has no clue. But if you have proof tell her and let the two of them work it out.
She may not want to believe you and she may even get mad at you. But again, if you are sure she will be greatful in the long run.
And never say I told you so afterwards.
2006-09-03 02:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by chrissm2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to check out Yahoo 360 and send tham an anonymous tip through a friend.. Hint Hint
2006-09-05 03:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by middleshoes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless it's someone close to you, do not get involved. Believe it or not, most couples will work it out and then you look bad for being the rat. If it's a close friend, have a heart to heart. Skip the anonymous stuff. She'd be hurt to find out that you knew and didn't tell her.
2006-09-03 02:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send the wife an email or use a public fax but be warned if you do tell the wife and she figures out you did it she will not appreciate it and may very well assume that you are the one hes cheating with or may not even believe you.
2006-09-03 02:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Type the message and leave it in the mailbox.
2006-09-03 02:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call them from a payphone.....send them an email from an email address you wont ever use again.....or type them a letter
2006-09-03 02:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋