We all were having a great time, when someone mentioned the boxing match was on T.V. later on. I didnt think it was going to be a problem, however most people (7 out of the group) went through to the other side of the pub where a T.V. was showing the boxing match. 3 of my other friends stayed with me and could see i was upset that my birthday celabrations had been cut short. I told my husband how i felt when he eventually came back (he had also gone to watch the match for a short time) but he didnt say anything. So in the end i said i was going home, as i didnt want to stay in a pub on my bithday whlie everyone else was more interested in the match than celebrating my bithday.
I feel let down by them, but at the same time embaressed i came home without saying anything to the 7 watching the match.
I think they will probably ring or come round today, but what should i say to them about all of this? Am i being unfair?
thanks for your help
2006-09-02 19:08:14 · 30 answers · asked by ANMAR 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am sorry to hear that your husband was amongst the friends that were so rude to leave your birthday celebration,
You are not being unfair and they should be the ones that are embarrassed, I am sorry but I cant imagine anyone being so low as to leave a birthday celebration mid flow just to watch TV.
When you see them again, I think they will need to apologise and try to make it up to you. your husband should be looking to buying you a big bunch of flowers or/and chocolates.
Well please except a belated birthday greeting from me.
"Daddy Dave"
2006-09-02 20:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Daddy Dave 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think both parties are being a little selfish.
Yeah, it's your birthday, but you are not a child. Everyone does not need to spend 100% time with you just because it is your birthday. You could have easily moved you, and the remaining people, into the room with the other 7 and combined the party with the boxing match. Instead you choose to pout and stay where you were.
They may have been a little rude going to see the boxing match, but they did eat with you and did have a few drinks before hand.
I think you should just drop it and don't be all drama queen about it. It's really not a big deal.
2006-09-02 19:13:55 · answer #2 · answered by charice266 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! No you are not being unfair at all. It was your birthday celebration after all. Rude for anyone to even suggest watching the match. If its anything like where i live, the women folk were left to celebrate your birthday while the men went next door. Guess hubby popped his head out of his butt and realized what he had done or else he was riding the fence so to speak. He may have been trying to be one of the guys and still pacify you . Screw the 7 after treating you that way.
2006-09-02 19:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by psykobarbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're over reacting.
Big birthday celebrations are usually kept for kids or for the "big" ones...30th, 40th etc.
Sometimes birthday's are used as an excuse for people to get together and the focus will not be on the birthday boy or girl all night long.
Be happy that you have a group of friend's to get together with on your birthday!!
2006-09-02 19:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by jjoct18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are making a big fuss about nothing, they went to the other side of the pub for goodness sake, and you looked rude for sloping off and not saying good bye to the people who made an effort and celebrated your birthday with you.
2006-09-02 21:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by mz.hunnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO you are nor being unfair at all. On the other had you 'friends' were. If they though much of you they would not of wandered off and left you to watch the tv.This would be poor behaviour anytime without first asking if you minded but on your birthday is unforgivable.
The ones who left should say sorry and try to make it up to you.
Happy belated birthady
2006-09-03 00:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by bullatpool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Take control of yourself. the evening was ruined for you. No amount of heartburn, sympathy, apologising etc whatever is gonna give you back those moments. Our life has become very busy and commercial. If you were to go by my opinion, You should forgive them all (incl ur hubby) and go about as if nothing of consequence happened. There is no use troubling yourself over the incident and reliving the trauma.. Go ahead, think positive. And dont be ashmed of your behaviour. Relax..
(messae me if u want any specific clarifications)
Care,
Gill
2006-09-02 19:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by Gill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they were a bit off going to see the match, but having said that they enjoyed the night and you did't, so maybe next time you could join them for a while and alternate with the ones who stayed behind. Compromise go with the flow and your evening won't be completely ruined.
2006-09-02 20:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by cool chicken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not being unfair .they were going to the pub to celebrate ur birthday and not watch the match and your friendship is more imprtant than a stupid match.i think you should tell them how u truely feels.
2006-09-02 19:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you're frusterated but I think you might be being too harsh on them. You should have expressed to your friends how you felt at the time or just went about with your 3 "loyal" friends and had such a great time that they wished they would have stayed with you.
Would it have been possible to go to the bar side with your buddies so they could watch the match and hang with you?
Just some thoughts. :)
2006-09-02 19:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by Livia 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋