ok i have been dating my bf for about 10 months now. we have always had a long distance relationship(he lives bout 1 1/2 hours away) anywaz he set down this rule that i cant b over at any guys house past 10 30 pm and no guy can b over at my house past that. and the same goes for him and gurls. but he is always spendin the night and goin to his friends houses(gurls and guys) during the day and at night and there always having partys and stuff that last till like 11 or 12, so he gets to stay out. i barly ever go to anyones house. i jus feel like the rule is stupid and shouldnt even exist...i kinda feel like he dosnt trust me around my friends and dosnt think i can take care of myself around my friends. i jus would like some advise or to know ur thots on this....
2006-09-02 19:04:27 · 12 answers · asked by katkalina1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that rules like this will ruin your relationship more than help it. It is already difficult balancing a long distance relationship. The key component in maintaining the relationship is trust. Let him know that the rule is stupid and unnecessary. You both are still young and have your own lives to live. You don't need to be stuck in the house wondering where he is and what he's doing. GO OUT WITH YOUR CREW!!! Another pointer I want to give to you is to put away the cell phone when you're out with the girls. The last thing you need to do is having to answer to him on your whereabouts.I had a friend who called her boyfriend when she was heading to the club...in the club...out the club...etc. It was very sickening. And how does he know how your friends are if he lives an hour and 30 min away! You need to limit what you tell him about your friends. Does he tell you everything about his friends? If he is still insisting on this rule and regulating your choice of friends take a break from each other or just end it completely. Find someone close to where you live. Your life will be more balanced and less stressful!
2006-09-02 19:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur boyfriend is selfish la!he dont allow u to go out at night but he go to himself!u r really wan to consider the relationship between two of u. u must try to find more friends so that u can find a people to hear ur problem and help u when u r facing any problem.u also can try to comunicate with him to let him know about ur feeling. dont let the distance between 2of u become wide,k?
2006-09-02 19:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by nick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
initiate a rumor back. say some thing like "why might i hassle being inlove with him while he has an element for his mate?" lol. heavily, the final element you're able to do is ignore approximately it. that's an immature sport that's designed to humiliate you, so the final element you're able to do is be the bigger individual. once you hear the rumors, in basic terms smile and say "Is that a actuality?". you could continuously say "And who did you hear that from?" and enable human beings connect the dots approximately what's probable to be genuine. looks such as you made a solid decision rejecting him, he sounds fairly immature to try this to you. if it persists and is frightening you, wait till he's around a set of individuals and bypass as much as him and say "howdy, I shop listening to those rumors you're spreading approximately me. I in basic terms decide to declare i'm fairly sorry I rejected you, i'm hoping you probably did no longer take it in my opinion I in basic terms wasn't searching for the comparable element you have been." that would desire to place an end to it, and the important element is to maintain your cool once you do it, and don;t get dragged all the way down to his point. in basic terms say that and smile with politeness and walk away. it will be glaring to all human beings who rejected who then.
2016-11-06 08:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to guys, they try to be soooooooooooo controlling! If he can do it, why can't you? Take control of your life. Have fun. Don't let a man tie you down like that. Don't just sit around waiting for him to call while life passes you by! Enjoy your life! He surely is! Remember: WHAT'S GOOD FOR THE GOOSE IS GOOD FOR THE GANDER TOO!
2006-09-02 19:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by irRHOsistible 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to do what you want when you want...He obviously is..Why do you even listen to him ..Tell him you will not be treated like a child with rules...I would look for someone else this guy is obviously having fun and doesn't want you to have any
2006-09-02 19:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! This guy isn't your father, he's your boyfriend. He shouldn't be making "rules" for you. I'd be very, very careful. If you make any sort of permanent commitment to this guy it is not likely that he will suddenly become LESS controlling.
2006-09-02 19:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by Leah M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new boyfriend! neither one of you are ready for a relationship. Having to have that rule shows you both of you are not ready.
2006-09-02 19:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by Mark J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you think that trust is a main element in a relationship...so he should trust you, or the relationship will cease to exist.
2006-09-02 19:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by "Chanel-o" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is all about being committed and UNCONDITIONAL. Any conditions in a relationship....cant be LOVE.
2006-09-02 19:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a weird rule. Screw that guy!
2006-09-02 19:07:31 · answer #10 · answered by Carrie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋