My best friend was suppose to come over to my house to watch movies. I called her a few times earlier that day and texted her, she didn't respond. She got off work at 7, but never showed. She rang my doorbell at 10:30 and woke my baby. My daughter screamed for hours because the doorbell scared her and wouldn't go back to sleep until almost 1 in the morning. She said she wasn't staying and she just wanted to drop off a TV she bought for my daughter which she hadn't told me she was gonna do. She said she couldn't help me carry the TV across a busy street and up two flights of stairs because she twisted her knee somehow. So I'm trying to get back upstairs to calm my baby and i told her to take the TV home and I'll get it another day. She says she can't leave the TV in the car because it's in her backseat and somebody might steal it. I was pissed so I told her to leave. We've had a disccussion about her popping up at my house with no calls before. Now she's mad at me. Was I wrong?
2006-09-02 18:54:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know this won't end our friendship. We've been friends since we were six, and we have had far worst arguements before. I just feel kind of bad, because a few people told me that I should have just got the TV out of the car. But I really couldn't carry it anyway, because it was too big and she CLAIMED her knee was hurting. but she went to the store, got the TV, put it in her car, and drove it to my house. But We have talked about her popping up before but she keeps doing it. I mean my own mother calls before she comes. My friend popped up once before when my daughter was at her grandma's and I had male company and got made when I wouldn't let her in. When does a person learn their lesson?
2006-09-02 19:04:04 · update #1
Oh, by the way she wasn't willing to help carry the TV. It was too large and heavy for me to carry alone. Plus I would have had to leave the bay in the house because she claimed she couldn't walk up my stairs.
2006-09-02 19:08:12 · update #2
heraamarantha:
Kids don't cry for two hours straight for being awaken from sleep by a doorbell that sounds like a fire alarm. They don't shake from fear and have their little hearts beating like they are about to have a heart attack and she has a heart condition from birth.
2006-09-02 19:16:09 · update #3
No, part of friendship is mutual respect. She disregarded your previous plans, disrupted your household, expected you to leave your baby (alone?) in your home to carry a suprise gift... she should have apologized for messing up your plans and waking the baby and been more considerate. If you bring someone a gift, do it at a reasonable time and don't expect someone to cater around you. Dont give someone a load to bear on their shoulders and call it a gift...
2006-09-02 19:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by wtrmlnqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest both of you was wrong. She was wrong for not calling you and telling you that she was going to be late and that you will need help bring up a gift she brought your child; as will as coming to your home at 1 in the morning.You was wrong because you was upset and most likely started yelling at her for not coming to your home early. Your friend should understand you was not able to carry that TV up stair by yourself and maybe you could of ask someone in your building to assist you. Now call your BFF and Kiss & Make-up; before you two become Paris and Nicole...LOL....
2006-09-02 19:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by JO`NAE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man that was a nice gesture....buying a TV for your daughter...that's probably why she was late...she is your best friend....you were pissed and you asked her to leave....man if i were her i would never see your face again for being so cruel and insensitive...kids cry all the time....call and tell her that's you didn't mean to hurt her and that you were at your wits end with all the crying....yeas sweety you were wrong....so what if a friend pops by and says hi and doesn't give you a stipulated time of arrival!!
2006-09-02 19:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by heraamarantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt break the friendship up over it, but yes, she was inconsiderate. She should have considered your feelings and your poor baby got woke up... I would have been ticked off too. But life is short and if you love your friend i'm sure you can talk it out. Hope you get everything patched up.
2006-09-02 18:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by el 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you weren't wrong and I she probably won't just pop up again.
.....couldn't she have tended to the baby while you got the TV?
For the friendship...you should both apologize
2006-09-02 18:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by catmoosebear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you were not wrong. I'm concerned about this TV though. She bought it for your baby? Are you sure she 'bought' it? And did she say where she was when you were trying to call her earlier? Hmmm.
2006-09-02 19:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She brought you a gift and you pretty much threw it in her face..Hell yeah she should be pissed..Why couldn't you have helped her with it..It wouldn't have hurt you any
2006-09-02 19:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You were not wrong, if there was a discussion already she should have known.
2006-09-02 18:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong; I would have told her off
2006-09-02 18:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by gg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you were not wrong. but if she is your friend . you need to talk to her and work it out.
2006-09-02 19:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋