I have a friend who is grossly obese. When we eat out she orders more food than anyone else. She's always been a greedy eater but, she keeps getting fatter. I'm worried about her eating so much. It's unhealthy and she looks disgusting. Should I talk to her about it? She wasn't always this way.
2006-09-02 18:49:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes of course you should. In fact, a true friend is a person who also points out the negative in you and give suggesstions ot make it positive. but please sandwich this fact in between the good ones. first appreciate him for her beauty and then suggesst to have a good diet that will make her more happy.
2006-09-02 18:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by bobby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are probably better ways to show your concern or to help. When all go out, say you aren't very hungry and ask if she wants to split something with you. Ask her to do things with you that are active, like bike ride, etc. Try to make sure there isn't a big emotional problem going on with her that might be causing her to fill the void with food. That last thing you want to do is come right out and tell her she's eating too much or that you think she looks disgusting. I guarantee you she already knows both of those things in a very painful way. Focus on the health and emotional aspects. Be there for her.
2006-09-02 18:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what hon, it will hurt her and your friendship will not feel the same to her again. She might feel alienated by you even though you are worried about her, or she might feel totally judged. Do her a big favor and just start suggesting things to do together other than going out to eat that will get her involved in moving her body and getting exercise... dancing, swimming, heck even some put-put golf, lol, whatever you both will like and something that she can do without getting frustrated. A gym? Just make it out to be like you are on a fitness kick and would enjoy her company. Carry some fruit in your backpack and offer an apple.
2006-09-02 19:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by el 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is her business if she wants to eat more than others. It sounds to me your just worried about her appearance and what people think when your out eating with her. I know it's bad for her health, but you supposedly being her friend isn't going to help any less. Your totally out of line when you put her down and say she looks disgusting. Let her be and hopefully one day she will come around and realize she needs to lose those extra pounds especially for her health! But It really isn't your place to tell her anything about her weight. Even if you think it will save her life.
2006-09-02 18:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her she needs to watch what she eats ..because it is only going to lead to health problems later on...Suggest things she can eat that aren't bad for her ..Like salads fruit etc.
2006-09-02 18:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should ask her. it might be something that depressed her and she just let herself go. you should discuss with her, and to encourage her you can both try to diet. then she will not feel all alone by herself. make sure she knows that she is not alone, and you can help her whenever she needs. and ask her to eat more healthier./
2006-09-02 18:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by voodoochild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOMETIMES THE TRUTH HURTS. TELL HER YOU ARE CONCERNED ABOUT HER NEED TO GRATIFY HERSELF WITH FOOD. ASK HER WHAT HER FEARS ARE, AND WHAT SHE WNTS FOR HERSELF. THEN HELP HEER FORMULATE A PLAN TO GET WHAT SHE WANTS.
2006-09-02 18:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's you friend, you should tell her. do it nicely, though, but that's what friends do. tell her how you feel about her and that you don't want to see her so unhealthy
2006-09-02 18:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by Myke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋