i wrote about this earlier, but i left out some things. I love my bestfriend but she has a boyfriend. She is so perfect and beautiful and she says she likes me and she thinks im really funny, but she has a boyfriend, who talks bad about her and is a jerk. Her boyfriend graduates in 2 years, but i dont want to wait 2 years for this. I really love her. I want to tell her how i feel and that her boyfriend talks bad about her, but I dont want to hurt her, or destroy our friendship. I dont know how she would react. If you have any advice I would love some help. thanks
2006-09-02 18:40:29 · 7 answers · asked by john 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Give her Dr. Laura's book "10 Things woman do to mess up their lives"
And then get the book about how men mess up their lives for yourself.
If you're "after" her, it will seem like you're saying bad things about this guy so you can have her yourself (which you probably are...).
Decide which you want to do--if you want her then tell her what a great guy you are. If you want to protect her, then tell her what he's done, and don't expect her to be happy about it.
It's easy to love someone who doesn't love you, because there's nothing anyone can really expect you to do. It's hard work loving someone real because you have to put up with their problems.
2006-09-02 18:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I'm a girl, 23, Sydney and if it was me this is what I would do.
1) You two obviously get along based on personality, the barrier is whether or not she find you physically attractive (at least a little bit!). One way that I can think of to do this is by asking her for skincare/style advise - eg: take her shopping with you and let her decide what shirts or trousers would fit/look good on you best...
2) If her boyfriend is a loser...you have to somehow let her find out or let her know in a SUBTLE way....after she finds out...wait a few weeks until she is over him and is hurting no more. Visiting with ice cream will win you brownie points. at this time, start hanging out just the two of you, going to movies and bars together. Dancing is intimate and will get her comfotable with you physically....after spending so much time with you she's bound to care more about you.
3) Little compliments here and there. Comment on her hair, earrings etc.
2006-09-02 18:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by lumoslight82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here is the dealio: this is life and you are gonna run into a lot of crap. I'm a girl so I know what I'm talking about. Tell her how you feel, I do suggest that you do get some sort of proof that this guy is talking crap about her. But sit her down in one of her favorite places (please do not do this on a phone bad bad choice) and tell her "Listen I know that you are in a relationship with (name) but I want to let you know that our relationship means so much to me you are my best friend and I love you as a best friend but I love you more than that. I want to ask you friend to friend... are you happy with this guy? (If you really do lover her you'll let her be happy with her current boyfriend and truely accept that) o yes and remind her that this friendship is irreplaceable and that you dont want to damage it in any way...good luck...never let an open door close...you'll regret it.
2006-09-02 18:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by "Chanel-o" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion honesty is always the best policy. if she is your BEST friend then she should realize that you only care for her and respect her and do not want to see this other guy doing her wrong. she may be hurt at first but like i said if she is your true friend she will come around. she may not return your feelings of "love", and that is something you need to be prepared for, and if she does then i wish you two the best of luck, if she doesn't then you two will have alot to talk about. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-02 18:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by sxylips24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how alful the boyfriend is to her and she will break up with him. then a few months l8er tell her straight. beta not do it quickly like it seems you're getting him out of the scene. but be careful coz sometimes if you go out with a friend then it will just ruin your friendship and it will be more of a sexy romantic thing then a hello whats up thing.
2006-09-02 18:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by voodoochild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, covert op that sh*t, get the BF talking bad about her on tape.....Start playing it over and over where she will most likley be.....she'll break it off with him, everyone will know hes a jerk. Then all you do is comfort her and its home free from there.
2006-09-02 19:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i would tell her about her boyfriend talking bad about her and tell her you think he is a moron and how could he talk badly about such a perfect and beautiful girl then tell her you really like her
2006-09-02 18:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋