At school i am vey quiet and shy. And there are so many people using me and treating me like dirt. Especially a gang of boys at my school. whenever they see me, they make fun of me and tease me. they are always out there to get me and i feel like a jerk. also these popular girls are always making me feel bad and say mean stuff about me and go to my website and write mean stuff. everyone hates me and doesnt play with me or talk to me nicely. I then go to the bathroom and cry. I feel left out. what can i do? i dont want this issue to continue and i dont want other people to use me and be mean with me like this ANYMORE!! what can i do??? HELP! HELP!!
2006-09-02 17:49:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Do you have some nice friends that you can talk to? I would always choose a few good friends over masses of people that you can't trust. There are always going to be ignorant people in life, I would ignore than the best that you can. And remember that school is only temporary and once you get past it, all that crap doesn't matter anymore.
2006-09-02 17:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by Lola76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I cant really 'help' you, this is a situation where you are just going to have to persevear and help yourself. I am not really sure how old you are, but I assume that you are still in mid/high school. This is my advice, you don't have to take it.
-I'm not really sure why the guys have targeted you out specifically. But, more than likely you are not the only one who is targeted. Look to see who those others are-they are probably normal people just like yourself. Travel in a group of two or more. Friends; there is safety in numbers.
The girls that go to your website: they are just like those boys. Remember, there are people out there that think that they have to make others feel just as miserable to justify their existence. Also, they are sheep. Talk to adults about them-talk to your parents...let them know what is going on in your world. I would avoid the kids that are 'abusing' you, as much as possible. Focus on your school work and your friends-study groups. If they post stuff on your website, erase it! Don't comment on it. Dont write anything in it that will harbor bad feelings about anyone that would justify them writing anything nasty about you or to you. If you continue to delete their remarks...they will eventually get bored and leave you alone. Also, if they start to ask you about your deleations in person-just say..."I have no idea what you mean, and walk away-tell them you have a meeting, appointment-your parent is coming to pick you up, whatever. If you allow these people to bother you, if you focus on their abuse that they are inflicting, if you allow them your attention....they will continue. Good luck.
2006-09-03 01:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down one of these nights and write down all of the mean things that have been told to you. All that you can remember, and when you are finished look over your list and see what are the common denominators for the cat-calls and insults.
When you get to the point that you feel is the reason sit down with your mom and ask for her advise on how to deal with this.
Each region of America has it's own set of social rules and ideas. You need to hear the changes needed from someone who has lived or is living in your neighborhood so that when you do change it will be for the better.
2006-09-03 00:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut the TV on one day and look at how many people where teased in high school then turned out to the nice looking one.
Just remember this get involved..stay involved with something that you love to do and IGNORE them as long as they see that they are getting to you they will continue.
I know it will be hard but stay focused...you will come out on top..I know..I went thru the same thing when I was in school now I am the one that succeded and does not have a husband for a fat *** or drunk AND I am 34 and look 24....those bimbos in school now my age are fat and look 44.
Hang in there sunshine you will be fine sweetie
2006-09-03 00:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by Attorney Search 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want peeps to abuse you, you have to stand up for yourself.......even if it might mean that you have to physically defend yourself. No one respects peeps that are easily abuseable.
For instance, I was a quie, kinda shy guy in high school and this one kid was messin with me in class and makin fun of me and the girls were all laffin. So I got mad and got determined. I got up like I was gonna tell the teacher, (yeah, like THAT ever works), and picked up the empty desk in front of me and threw it on him, while punching him in the jaw. He tossed me over some desks and papers, books, pens, etc. went flying, just like a movie. He was pulling me up when we got separated by the principal and another teacher. He ended up getting suspended and, because I never got in trouble, they just let me go back to class.
NO ONE ever messed with me again after that. Now, I'm not saying that you should do something as drastic as that but you have to take a stand. Are you going to be pushed around all your life or are you going to defend your right to be left alone? It takes courage to stand up against negativity but it is so worth it in the end because of how you feel about yourself afterwards. Courage leads to integrity which brings respect.
Come up with a plan, get MAD!!!! Defend yourself! You deserve it!
2006-09-03 01:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by BBQribs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bullies always pick on the weak!
So, you have to be strong-willed. Do not be cowed by their tactics. Show that you don't fear them. Enlist the help of a few genuine friends/teachers/parents/siblings?
You can only be treated like dirt if you allow them to.
2006-09-03 01:15:20 · answer #6 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one, hon. Given the cruelty of children, I can only think of one way out. Change schools and remold yourself. Hard to do, but possible.
2006-09-03 00:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your school guidence department. They can help you get through this and possibly even get you a "mentor" to help you. By going through them it is all confidental so nobody will have to know what you say and they know how to handle these issues without causing you anymore problems.GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-03 00:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by curious21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur probably cute, so the 'popular' girl are scared of you and the guys don't know how to chat you up. teasing is a classic way of 'chatting' up for shy guy. sometimes guys dont like to admit to one anotehr they may fancy a girl so they'l tease.
you need to find a new way to respond to the teasing.
the best way is to find other girls in your sitch and team up.
2006-09-03 00:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by Piffle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all u need 2 stand up 2 all them jerks
2006-09-03 01:00:12 · answer #10 · answered by mother of 3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋