when a loved one dies how come you always have the attraction to confront the place they died at or their home? I have and it`s a question I have been thinking about.
2006-09-02 17:46:18 · 6 answers · asked by T-Bone 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It's all part of absorbing the fact that they are really gone. That's what I think. I have known many people who died and it is hard to get your mind around it every time it happens.
2006-09-02 17:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is part of the grieving process. It is natural to want to be where their spirits once were. Home is a place that spent most of their time and the place they died is where they left. Maybe in some way we hope to hold on to them in these places. This is a familiar story to me. I recall doing this for a long while after I lost my father. I assure you they are not there and visiting these places only makes it harder on you. It could bring you comfort. Depends on how you choose to make peace with it. Try thinking what they would have wanted you to do. Where where they happiest? Will visiting a wreck scene bring them back? It is only human to want to be where they were at when they Left this world. I believe that they never really leave us. They are in our minds and hearts and all we really need are the things we can hold in our memories. They let us know that they are OK. It is always something we least expect.
2006-09-03 05:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bobbie M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my Mother died, I went to her house to clean out her personal items. Upon entering the house, I thought to myself, how could a place once filled with so much life be so empty. To me, the house was now just a house. What made it a home was gone. I think confronting the situation forced me to begin to accept that she was gone. I still have not been to the place where she died, and I don't intend to. There are no good memories for me there.
2006-09-03 01:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by armywifetp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its just a natural part of learning to deal with the fact that they have died. My Dad passed away several years ago, and when I used to go back to his house when I was readying it to be rented; I would always externally expect to see him there, although I knew internally that he was deceased and I was not going to see him. I believe that it is just a part of the human condition. I have a friend and co-worker who is in her sixties and her Dad passed away nearly thirty years ago and we have discussed that she still expects to see her Dad standing in the driveway at his house, as he always would do when she would visit. This takes place when she goes back to the house to visit her Mom. It is all part of attempting to deal with the loss and grief. Have a good night.
2006-09-03 01:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the memories of them being there it's hard to let go of those memories,and let the person go on
2006-09-03 00:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by purpleaura1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont
2006-09-04 15:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋