i want to but im afraid he will say no we have been together for 1 year and our sex life has totally slowed down....
2006-09-02 17:43:43 · 18 answers · asked by happybunnyjg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Seriously, I wuold show him this question and tell him you didn't know where to turn, and felt uncomfortable talking with him, but really need to, to deal with this.
Ask him if he sees an issue.
Ask him if he has a sex drive, and if it is satisfied.
If so, ask where's it getting satisfied. If not, ask if you are capable of satisfying him or not.
I'd explain that if you are going to marry him, you need to know that communication will be the way you both agree to deal with things either of you thinks is important enough to be privately thinking about.
If its important to you, he should want to listen.
As a guy myself, and I have nothing to based this on but my thoughts in a similar situation, the following is a possibility..BUT may have NOTHING to do with your guy.
If the chase is what did it for him, and he feels its easy to get now, the thrill might not be there. The aniticipation might not be as strong. I might be looking at women I couldn't get. I really doubt if he is cheating, but contrary to what women like to think (I have been told I am full of it on this), guys DUE TO NO FAULT OF THEIR OWN just get either bored, take for granted that they can get it from a certain girl, it gets routine, or something in our heads is programmed. I am fond of saying there is a guy who is tired of Heather Locklear, although I couldn't see it unless I "had": her or the same woman alot.
I would consider frustrating him by saying "you don't want me, you can't have me." and hold out 3-4 weeks. He might be begging for you.
Or maybe he likes make up sex. I am not saying start an argument, but you need another psychological angle.
My guess is that it has nothing to do with you physically! I think its all psychological.
I could be all wrong and maybe he is just so stressed at work that he is not thinking about sex.
Hope u consider my theories.
Feel free to write and update me.
2006-09-02 18:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sex life has slowed down after only one year than there is something wrong! If he was all over in the begigning then he still should be. If your guy is telling you he doean't want to have sex with you than it is quite obvious that something is wrong, either he's burning, having sex with somebody else, or just plain ol' dont wanna have sex with you because he lost interest. If this is the case, then why r u still there? Your fiance should be making you feel gentle and warm inside not aprehensive and stressed. That's crazy that you have to worry about your fiance turning you down, since when does the love of your life turn down your lovin'.
-NOBODY LOVES LIKE THAT. HE'S CLEARLY NOT IN LOVE WITH U. U NEED TO MOVE ON BECAUSE IT SOUNDS LIKE HE SURE DID! IF A MAN WON'T SHARE HIS FOOD OR LOVE WITH U, THEN U GOTTA PROBLEM!!!!
2006-09-02 18:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by StormyRain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what you or he said "No. our sex life is totally slowed down"? that means he have someone else at the side. Some relationship last from 6 month to a years. Because either one of you is cheating or that he got sick and tired of you.
But if he's not cheating he wouldnt say that. He would at lease try his best. Or it can be that he is not sexual active.
2006-09-02 17:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by lova_boy56 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nice rub does the trick for me, just start massaging his back and all of him, its fun you get to know his body better and it looks like you are doing him a favor but really you just want some good lovin!!!!!!!! Have fun Girl, and never be afraid to ask for it!!!! Guys dig that ****!!!!
2006-09-02 17:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by darcigreeneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you seriously still considering MARRYING this guy?
(i didn't know guys said no to sex...)
however, it's common for couples to go through this lull in bedroom activity when engaged, mostly due to stress in the midst of all the wedding planning. put a porn on, talk dirty, get naked, i'm sure something along those lines would work. again, good luck!
2006-09-02 17:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by stephiebugg1112 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me exhibiting affection and being concerned could be great particular intercourse could be stable yet thats component to the relationship its the standard issues that rather count variety a kiss a hug a grin the easy issues make an effort to reconnect remember why you sense in love interior the 1st place
2016-11-24 19:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by mckernan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes taken the situation into his own hands.....seriously tho maybe hes tired of asking you for it all the time....just ask him trust me he wont say no.....eithier verbally ask him or run your fingers down his back lightly for a bit almost anything works
2006-09-02 17:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by mrsannman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you shouldn't marry him if he doesn't want to do sex that much. that would be totally boring being married to him. get out while you can
2006-09-02 18:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by Valerena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try seduce him slow if it doesnt work..grab him and force him...blv me some guys love and enjoy when thr girl is more passive and at time aggressive
2006-09-02 17:49:45 · answer #9 · answered by roddur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whipped cream bikini. Can't get any more obvious than that.
2006-09-02 17:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋