i me we have been together for about a year,and we still have not gotten married how long should i wait for him before i walk out????
2006-09-02 17:41:45 · 22 answers · asked by happybunnyjg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, why are you asking us this question when it is something you should be talking to him about?
My daughter got engage, for over a year, he would never set a date.
One day, a buddy of his asked him when he was going to make an honest woman out of my daughter.
He said, July 6th.
She about fell over. That was 6 weeks to plan a wedding.
I was out of town that weekend so they changed it to July 13th.
That was 4 years ago.
Just ask him and tell him how you feel.
How much more time do you want to give him?
How much do you love him?
Your heart has the answer.
2006-09-02 17:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why are you trying to push him into marrying you? If you do that then your gonna be starring on divorce court! Wait untill your BOTH ready, that's how long you should wait. Besides it has only been a year, give the man a break your gonna scare him off. Your not going to get wifed up by a guy after a year, you guys still have tons of personality to display towards each other. So calm down and just enjoy the relationship and love him!
Also, let me ask you this: Did he tell you that he wanted to marry you? Did he set a date? If in fact he did tell you this than why r u bugging him about it? be careful about nagging the man, guys definatley don't want that in a wife. Patience is a virtue! Now if he didn't tell you he wanted to marry you then you have no right to be assuming anything!
-Feel free to e-mail me for further advice!
2006-09-02 18:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by StormyRain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all have you discussed a wedding date? I heard that statistics say the longer you are engaged--put off wedding the more likely you are to not make it. unfortunately I can't remember where I heard it. don't give an threat just discuss it if he wants to continue to put it off then it sounds like he is not ready to be married and a marriage is 2 people not one. but make sure there isn't a reason for him wanting to wait. consider his feelings. but I can tell you I wouldn't have waited over 6mnths. --- I was engaged mid march and was married at the begingiing of may. We didn't spend alot on the wedding and did alot of the work ourselves. and my wedding is still (11yrs) talked about as being one of the best weddings in the family. so don't let $ for the wedding be a crutch. if you 2 want to spend the rest of your lives to gether married do it if not it's time to move on
2006-09-02 17:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by barnett95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the average engagement is 14 months, but i know people who've been engaged for YEARS. it takes a long time to plan a wedding and it can be really stressful!! if you are not actively planning a wedding, maybe you should start and that'll prompt your fiance to look at marriage a little more seriously. or, you could do what most people do, and ask your fiance what the hold up is...
good luck!
2006-09-02 17:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by stephiebugg1112 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as he needs. sometimes a long engagement is a good thing. you say that you have been together for about a year, so assuming that you didn't get engaged right away, you haven't even been engaged for a year. i waited 3 years to get engaged and then almost 3 years before we actually got married -boy was that a mistake..:( there are no 'rules' of enagement here.
2006-09-02 17:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by leprechaun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, I was with a man for 8 years before I decided to leave because he didn't want to get married.......If I were you I would wait until at least your 2 year dating anniversary, unless you decide that he isn't the right one for you.......They say that the first year is bliss, the second year is when you REALLY get to know a person.......I agree........Take care and be patient.........
2006-09-02 17:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no standard. You should really sit down and talk to him. Getting answers from complete strangers won't help you at all.
More important question is, if you have been with someone for a year and are engaged, why are you two not talking about this? (or feel comfortable enough to discuss this?)
2006-09-02 17:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is strange that after a year you guys havne't set a wedding date. I figure you want is asap and he is the one dragging his legs.
I would ask him to sit with you & set a date. If he says no. Then I think it is obvious that he isn't seriuos about the marriage. You know the old saying...why buy the cow when your getting the milk for free.
I personally would want to set a date for a wedding when I got engaged. But, then that is me.
2006-09-02 17:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it and see where he stands, besides one year is not really that long, after all he is already your fiance, that is a level of commitment, maybe you are being too pushy and scaring the crap out of him.
2006-09-02 17:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by Angie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a certain amount of time
its an attitude
talk to him, talk nice, listen to him, express your concerns
if he is not willing to start making some plans, proposing some dates, if he isn't willing to start following through on the committment he implied when he proposed, then you need to move on NOW
in reality, you are not engaged and you don't have a fiance, if you don't have a wedding date
people who may marry someday are friends, not fiances
2006-09-02 17:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by enginerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋