I have fallen in love with a man I have never met, we chat everyday online, and I think about him all day. We are both in relationships and we are very committed to our families. I really want to meet him, but we are thousands of miles away. Should I find a way to meet him, or find ways to forget about him.
Please serious answers only!!!!
2006-09-02 17:01:26 · 18 answers · asked by Ms. C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love goes above and beyond the internet. While conversation is great and really important. How can you say that you love someone that you have never spent anytime with. So no, online love is not real, but it can certainly be the beginning of real love+
2006-09-02 17:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by phillipsa9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone has answered this already but: Been there, done that. I wouldn't recommend it to you. In fact, I think that would be really bad considering you have a family and a relationship to which you're supposedly so commited to! Do you see what's wrong with your affirmation? It seems you have a very wrong notion of what commitment is. What you're feeling is most likely the result of an obsession you've developed. It's not an abnormal thing, but in my opinion it's also not something you should go along with. You should realize it for what it is, and what it is is foolish. Still, the choice is yours. If you feel you must, no one can stop you. Just try not to be selfish. Remember that you have a family and you're in a relationship, and so is the man you chat with, so there would be many people that could come out hurt if the two of you decided you should risk it all for something that probably wouldn't work. There's no such thing as online love, there's only online speculation and curiosity about real potential, which may confuse you and make you believe that you feel something that in reality you probably wouldn't. I know this may be hard to take but believe me, it's probably better this way.
2006-09-02 17:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by Ricardo P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should find ways to forget about him. First of all, you both are in committed relationships. Secondly, you've never met so things said online may not even be real. Don't blow your relationship over something that's not real. Deal with your problems with your relationship first. I'm sure there are some that's why you are fall in love online.
2006-09-02 17:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by SimpleGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are hard enough when both people are single but you are both in relationships. Think about this ! So you go and meet him....then what? You are both then going to leave your spouses ? Someone is going to have to move thousands of miles. Do either one of you have kids? You are climbing up a mountain to fall off a giant cliff. Spend your time more productively in your own town, in your own home, in your own life.
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2006-09-03 03:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by NYSmiles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be aware. I had a online relationship with a smooth talker, and belive it or not, it's so easy to fall in love over the phone. Then, the long distance relationship doesn't work out, it's a total waste of time and who knows whoelse he is contacting online now. Just be careful, some guys are really good at this now. Best.
2006-09-02 17:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by 1001Questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online love is based on a form of communication that you are not experiencing with your own husband. And I could imagine he is not communicating with his wife. Do me a favor.....start an online chat or email chat with you husband....communication is easy and seems easier when lifes stressors arent involved.
Take a month off....start communicating with your husband and go do some family things instead of chatting on the computer. If that doesnt pull you away...go meet him....who knows...you may meet him and he will have 2 teeth left and has body odor!
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good luck!
2006-09-02 17:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by MrsJR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant say that I fell in love with the man I met online but I am so totally into him. Both of us was in "not so good" marriages and he lives 2866 miles from me...yes clear across the United States. He is not with his wife anymore and i still coinside with my husband.....I am planning on going there in December for his birthday and if we hit it off in person like we do on Yahoo and on the phone I am moving there....so it is your desicion and i wish you the best....if you want to go for it but make sure that this is what you really want
2006-09-02 17:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by dede 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found love in the internet but I was single at the time you are not and not only that but you said he lives thousands of miles away from you what are you going to do move there and I dont think he will move here. So leave as it is........
2006-09-02 17:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by Madelyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him,please,do me that one favor.Find ways to spend time with your family,thats what committed means.Not spending your time with him and saying your committed.Find ways to strengthen the relationship you are in now and if it cant be strengthen to where your comfortable with maybe you should find a new relationship but offline where real relationships take place.
2006-09-02 17:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by mrsannman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation as you. I talk to this guy all of the time and even if I don't I still think about him. I would love to meet him.
2006-09-02 17:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by power of 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋