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When she laughs at me, says something rude and comes back later only to act like we are friends, dates boys and gets back together with them and then breaks up with them, takes out her anger on me, ignores me when I don’t do what she says, and cusses when I don’t do what she wants. What do you think?

2006-09-02 17:00:34 · 40 answers · asked by Laz♥ 5 in Family & Relationships Friends

40 answers

No way. Friends help you and are nice to you. This person sounds nothing like that, and I agree with other people's answers - she sounds like she's just using you. She sounds demeaning, demanding and self-absorbed.

I would confront her and tell her that she is not a friend because she does not act like a friend at all. If she sulks or tries to suck up to you, just move away. Bad behaviour like this is ultimately rude and you'll be better off without her.

She sounds really insecure, which is sad, but she has to learn to grow up and act nice. So tell her of her problem and leave her to deal with herself and the consequences. It's no longer your problem, it's hers.

Cheers. :-)

2006-09-02 17:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by Satinette 3 · 2 0

She does nt seem to be acting like a true friend based on what you have said. The question is, do you like her and want a friendship.

If you would like a good friendship with her then you will need to talk to her openly and honestly. You will need to tell her the things that you really appreciate about her and your friendship and then tell her about the things which you find hurtful and harmful in the relationship. Try to build in set ruled of trust and respect in your friendship. Promise each other that you will both be mindful of each other's feeling and will do your best not to hurt or offend each other. If she agrees to it - you have a friendship. If she is not willing to agree to it, you do not need that kind of a "friend" in your life.

All the best to you!

2006-09-02 17:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0 0

She is unhappy, for one, likes to control and manipulate for two. I had a friend like that recently and, though I really liked him in some ways, I had to let him go because his mistreatment of me and others was more than I could stand.

You need to stand up for yourself, tell her you won't be treated badly anymore and if she wants to be friends with you she has to change the way she treats you. Most likely, that will be too much for her to bear so you'll need to find someone else to be friends with. Someone that cares about how you feel, maybe.

2006-09-02 17:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by BBQribs 3 · 1 0

This chick has mental problems and instability....this will only get worse as time goes on....try to put some distance between you two, join in an activity that she hates and get the hell away....I had a friend like that a long time ago and she zapped all my energy, I finally just stopped talking to her and told her we weren't cool anymore

2006-09-02 17:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by lazy_n_spoiled 2 · 0 0

No, I don't think that that is what real friends do. If is really hard to find true friends that care about your interests and welfare as much if not more than their own. She is more of a fair weather friend. Not someone I would trust to cover my back.

2006-09-02 17:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by queenbee 2 · 1 0

Her behavior is quite eratic and unpredictable. Friendship is bond between two human being develops when there is a match in mental wavelength otherwise the person is not friend rather acquainted person.

2006-09-02 17:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by Abhijit 2 · 0 0

Geez girl she isn't any kind of friend at all. Be more choosy picking your friends because this one sounds like a self centered bytch! Find some good people to hang with.

2006-09-02 17:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by Paul S 2 · 0 0

Find a real friend, because she is not, she does not respect you, and you should tell her just that. tell her you do not appreciate her cussing at you, and you are not going to tolerate it any more. Tell her to have a friend, is to be a friend.

2006-09-02 17:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0 0

Nope, You sound like a whipping post to this person. Kick her to the curb.

2006-09-02 17:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by myothernewname 6 · 0 0

I kept a 'friend' like this for 5 years back in HS, all it did was ruin my self-confidence. She is not your friend - she clearly has no respect for you.

2006-09-02 17:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by brownfamilyfw 2 · 0 0

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