he call me an told me he wants to get back together but i broke up with him because he treated me like crap but now he wants me should i take him back but the problem is i have a new boyfriend who really care about me an don't treat me like how he did wat should i do?
2006-09-02 16:40:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you already moved on to another man who treats you respectfully, then you should not even take a chance to loose this new guy. Your ex will tell you anything but how do you know if he is not going to be the way that he was.
If you let him go, they was a reason for that. Never go back to your mistakes. Do not move backwards, move forward... (Good Luck)!!!
2006-09-02 16:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could give him another chance - tell him first what you need from him and expect and ask him if he thinks he can do those things. He may just do them at first and turn back to the old him.
I would date him every now and then to see how he is and don't make a commitment again yet - he has to know you are serious. So tell him that you will date him again but not a relationship until you see if he can treat you better.
Since you are in another relationship already it may just be a rebound relationship - if you really care about this new guy you would not be wondering what to do about the older guy. Chances are he did not change and will treat you the same way eventually so if you break it off with this new guy and go back to him and he is still the same old crappy him - lose lose. You could tell this new guy that you would like to have an open relationship so you both can date- that can be tricky though so beware.
2006-09-02 16:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does a leopard change his spots? Not likely.
Will your ex-boyfriend treat you better through the rest of your relationship if you went back to him? Not likely.
Does your current boyfriend, who does not treat you like crap, deserve to be hurt abd dumped for your ex boyfriend? Not likely.
Would it be a smart move to ever go back to your ex boyfriend? Not likely.
The reason your ex-boyfriend wants you back is because he misses the way you made him feel. Perhaps he misses some of the intimacy with you. The bottom line, though, is that it is all about what he wants - not you. If he treated you badly before then he really did not care about you, your happiness or your feelings and he is not likely to start caring now.
The fact that you asked this question makes me question how well things are goiong in your current relationship. It all was great, this question would have never come up.
I suggest that you evaluate all of the best qualities in your current ans past boyfriends and evaluate all of their worst qualities, too. Make a POSITIVE QUALITIES LIST and a NEGATIVE QUALITIES LIST. One you have you lists completed, stgart with the positive qualities and then move to the negative qualities. Place each quality in the following phrase:
My ideal partner is a man who________________________
Your positive list might look like this:
My ideal partner is a man who is very intellegent
My ideal partner is a man who is very caring
My ideal partner is a man who is very ticklish
My ideal partner is a man who is honest
Your positive list might look like this:
My ideal partner is a man who is physically, emotionally, or verbally abusive to me.
My ideal partner is a man who is dishonest to me
My ideal partner is a man who cheats on me
My ideal partner is a man who has double standards
Obviously if the items on your negative list sound ridiculous to you when used in that phrase - it is ridiculous and you are not with your ideal mate.
I hope this helped and I wish you all the best!
2006-09-02 16:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok his your ex for a reason if he treated you like crap then why go back when you have a guy who is treating you right? Don't go back with your ex stay with your boyfriend forget the old and work on the new..looking back will not get you far...Good luck and remember Don't leave the one you LOVE for the one you LIKE because the one you LIKE will leave you for the one they LOVE.
2006-09-02 16:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your current boyfriend. When he treated you like crap, he knew what he was risking. Do you really think that in such a short while, anything would change?
You found the guy who thinks you're the perfect one, He's gonna find a girl who like to be treated like crap. If you date him again, you're just gonna give the impression that you're desperate for someone
2006-09-02 16:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must still have some feelings for your ex bf or you wouldn't be considering him again. and you must not be totally satisfied with the new guy if you are considering your ex. the difference is that your ex treated you poorly so considering him is not being respectful to yourself cause you probably deserve better than that treatment. that doesn't mean the new guy is right for you either but he is probably just even better for you for the fact that he treats you better. you need to believe that you deserve a person who is kinder. if you want to pursue your ex, you need to let him know what your issues are around him, and set boundaries with him so he knows what to expect. otherwise you did the right thing in dumping him.
2006-09-02 16:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 07:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh DUUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHH!!! Why go back to soemone you just said treated you like crap??? Come on... you're kidding right?? Is your new guy not as good in the sack? That's no problem. You can teach him how to do what you need him to do.
Stay with ya new guy and tell ya ex NEXT!!!
2006-09-02 16:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lady G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to say I'm in the same situation as you so what I did was forget about my ex because I'm much happy with the person I'm with and to say my new boyfriend treats me much better then my ex did so if your happy with your new boyfriend forget about your ex and enjoy your new boyfriend
2006-09-02 16:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by honey baby2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he treated you like crap then, he probably will end up treating you like crap again. You shouldn't go out with him.
2006-09-02 16:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by .margarita. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋