that long term marriages are a thing of the past. And if so, is it even fair to have kids then.
2006-09-02 16:36:11 · 19 answers · asked by Common Sense 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Long term marriages will be a thing on the past if we allow them to. I think as long as we are aware of issues such as this, there is Hope. Kids early on should be taught the value of Family. The Value of Respect and Fear of God.
2006-09-02 16:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Long Term marriages are not a thing of the past. I have 14 wonderful years with my wife and we have 5 kids (soon to have another later this month - yes we are done after that). It is a wonderful thing to be married and I get so much joy from my childrens successes and failures. Just the shout, "DAD!" when I walk in from work is WONDERFUL. Keep looking for the real thing.
2006-09-02 23:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by Russ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know what you got a point and it is getting worse. Here is a simple way of putting it in economic terms. For years it was the man going to work, and the wife stays home. This means that there are an increase demand for men because women needed a roof over her head and food to eat. Well we all know that is not the case anymore. Women work and are more independent. This opens up for increase competition. Women don't need men anymore and that's why the divorce rate is so high. That's why kids are suffering. Also wages decreased (including inflation) because of an increase workforce. Only if we were a little nicer to women when there was less competition. Oh well.
2006-09-02 23:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by james w 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Married for 24 years. Marriage is the most strongest vow two peole can make. Communication is the fundamental operative. Value is the appreciation for the things you both hold dearly. Values change as society's woes however people that see the writing on the wall make less exchanges in real value for one that is a current perspective that can not offer love.
2006-09-02 23:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by The Global Community 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! Divorce has become to common! People need to realize what is promised when you marry someone. Almost every problem in a marriage can be worked out!
The whole kid situation, a single parent can raise a child as well as married parents. It all depends on the person.
But I don't think it's fair to have a child when the people are married and don't have any feelings for each other.
2006-09-02 23:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by monroe1172002 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is your idea of todays values and attitude? There are so many different ways of thinking today I can't just assume what you mean. There are many who have strong values in belief that honesty, integrety, maturity, kindness, consideration, and value other people, including placing high value on their spouses, children and family. I know that some in soceity here in the states are prone towards selfishness, but this is not something new. There has been selfish people all down the road of history, and will continue to be more as the years, and decades go by and all of us are dust. There is nothing so "new" today which did nto exist a hundred, two hundred, or many hundreds of years ago, when it comes to values, morals and attitudes. If you are speaking of morals, values, think of the biblical soddam and ghamorra. God brought down the cities due to their broken values and sexual perversions. This was in the time before Christ. So, I do believe long term marriages are not only still strong today, but will continue to be strong in the centuries ahead of us. No it is not wrong to bring forth children in todays world, any more or less fair than in past ages. Each age has its own individual strife and struggles, its own difficulties, yet we all seem to keep on moving forward. Life will continue to be good for those who strive for goodness, life will continue to be poor for those who do not strive for goodness. It is as simple as that. What we teach our children is what is important. If we teach them to dispair, that life is not worth living, then that is what they will think. If we teach them that all should be out for number one, then they will grow up to be selfish and think only of themselves, if we teach our children life is a joy and a journey of growth, that we get out of it what we put in, that even good people will get hurt, that life is not fair and nor shoud it be, they will grow up strong and risilant, have strong self esteem and look forward to their own jouney of discovery. So, it is up to each parent to choose what s/he wishes to teach their children which has the strongest bearing on our futures. I hope you choose well. Have a great evening and a nice life, I wish you much joy in this life.
2006-09-02 23:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Serenity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that marriage is a thing of the past, but I do think that the decline in traditional values and morals in today's society are counterproductive to sustaining a long term committment (marriage).
2006-09-02 23:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people should really think twice about having children. We have no shortage of kids in the world so if some of the people who don't take life seriously would gracioucly bow out of having children, that would be great.
Values and attitudes in general stink and I don't see them getting any better. The moral fabric is breaking down and with each generation, it seems to get worse.
2006-09-02 23:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by Speaking_Up 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think people should look at marriage and children as something they want to do rather than something they are supposed to do because of societies views. Too many people are acting as though they were forced into something they are paying a price for. Yet it was a decision they made. People need to think more. If they are too selfish to do what it takes to be married and have children then they shouldn't do it.
2006-09-02 23:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Im sad to answer this but it seems to be true that todays marriages simply fall apart. I think people have good intentions when they take their vows but things happen & people change. The idea of a everlasting love seems unattainable, yet I still hope.
2006-09-03 00:39:38 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋