2006-09-02 16:34:39 · 13 answers · asked by beth h 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can always pray.
2006-09-02 16:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that.. I understand how you feel because I was in a similiar situation. My husband died 14 yrs ago and I was depressed for a long time and one day I told myself that I have to move on because I know that he would have wanted me too. I also believe that he would of moved on if it was the other way around..
So I did and now I am married to a great guy, it's been 10 yrs. I know that it seems hard but believe me you will find someone else and you will be happy again. Your husband wants you to be happy.. (Good Luck)!!!!
2006-09-02 16:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My third wife (sitting across the room from me) says that it depends on how open you will be to finding love again when the time comes. Her husband died at age 24 when she was 22. She had a 2-year-old boy and was 8 months pregnant with her daughter when he died.
I did not lose a wife to death, but I did pine for my first wife for several years before I started to move on emotionally. It took me nearly 12 years to be ready for the right one, again. I had a second marriage early on when I wasn't ready.
I knew a woman who pretty much shut herself into her basement for 6 years after her husband passed away. At the end of that time, she realized that she wouldn't be replacing him by finding someone else to love, but would be adding to what they had with new and fresh memories, which was likely more in line with what her loving husband would have wanted for her, anyway, since he loved her and wanted her to be happy.
So, finding a love again, is up to you. Take your time. Be sure you heal yourself from the loss. And remember that no matter what your friends and family say about enough time or not enough time, it's your time -- just be sure you do it on your own schedule.
2006-09-02 16:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by brightpool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your husband. I hope you take the time to grieve your loss totally. Don't be in any hurry to find anyone. If you do meet someone, go slow and get to know them as a friend. Often, people out of divorces and who loose spouses rush into replacing the person. That's called being desperate and it is not only damaging emotionally it is also dangerous.
This is a good time to reevaluate your life. Is there something you'd like to do, like finish college or travel? If so, you should plan on that. Concentrate on yourself now, taking care of you, being good to you. And, maybe even getting to know you again.
2006-09-02 16:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband died in 1982. I raised my four sons alone. I found love again, but it was not the same as that first learning, growing, experiencing things together.
I love my man dearly now, but comparing this love to the first; it's so different, not as intense.
We were so young then, and depended on each other so much. It was precious.
You will love again.
God Bless You.
2006-09-02 17:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by jfmm 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry for your husband's death. I am well aware that those who mourn over their husband's death and never movie on is done to show their husband in heaven that: "I am still keeping faithful to you, I won't go to some other guy and betray my love for you." But though I understant this notion, I truly think that the husband in heaven would look down at his wife who never moves on but only mourns for and he would feel depressed. I think, the best way to show your love to your deceased husband would be to do the hardest thing: move on and be happy. A married couple are one, and so, if you are happy, your other half will thus be happy. If you are sad, then your other half will be happy. I am sure your husband would wish you to move on, as he has moved on to a better place, why should you be left to sulk in the wretched world alone??
2006-09-02 17:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by J.Welkin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if you can understand that what you had with your husband was beautiful and that just because he has passed doesn't mean that he wouldn't wish you to be happy and pursue love again... it doesn't have to be right away but somewhere down the road you may find someone you like, you should persue those feelings without guilt. life is too precious to be alone forever, its o.k. to love again, to be happy.
2006-09-02 16:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by Bodhi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for your loss. true love is everlasting love. when you meet someone new and eventually marry that person you will still think about your first husband. that should be true love. your new partner should understand that and its possible to have 2 true loves. you will know when the time is right; you will feel utter peace with yourself, good luck and i pray for you
2006-09-02 16:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by mole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband passed away to, almost 5 years ago. I am just now thinking about dating? How long has it been for you?
2006-09-02 16:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by peace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course...
your husband will never let you go on living without someone to love you the way he did... besides, GOD loves you so much that He gave you your husband to love, why wouldn't He give you someone better now that He has taken your husband to heaven?
2006-09-02 16:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will depend on if you want to find love again, or if you open your eyes soon enough to see it.
2006-09-02 16:45:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋