I am usually a pretty quiet companion but lately Im really bitchin at my husband ,And I feel so bad after.I just cant seem to get what I need from him.He is so independent and I always feel he doesnt need me .Whats the best thing to do.?He says he is trying.
2006-09-02 16:28:09 · 10 answers · asked by jessy 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The needs are not to feel he is fine on his own and all he needs is him.Such a feeling of he is so ok with just himself.
2006-09-02 16:38:21 · update #1
People should be together because they want to, not because they need to. Be glad he doesn't need you, maybe you do need some activity outside your home, that way you would have something positive to bring back when you get there. Try some volunteer work, or join some kind of group. It would improve your mood and help others, making you less "bitchy" and taking pressure off your husband your relationship would blossom. Best of Luck to you.
2006-09-02 16:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by malraene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. He probably doesn't suspect a thing is bothering you.
Do you have any friends? Get out and enjoy what you like.
You are having self doubt. I feel the same way sometimes. What I do is make sure to tell my girlfriend I love her and I look her in the eyes when I say it. I also do many "little things" like leave notes in her lunch and tell her things like she is the most important person in my life no matter what else is going on. And not to make a fuss over everything. I am commited to her and will be there whenever she needs me to be.
Did you realise his independence when you married? What drew you to him to begin with?
Talk to him. Find what you both have in common and do it.
2006-09-02 23:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by viewAskew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair to blame it on him if you are unhappy and he is independent. You are just insecure because it doesn't feel like he needs you the way you need him. Get a hobby, go out with a friend, join a club--especially one that emphasizes service. You'll feel better about yourself and your confidence will be attractive to him. Good luck!
2006-09-02 23:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by Helpful Kim 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Independent ppl r like that. i think u should create a different place for urself in his life. Don't try to be a support for him in the usual way that married ppl are to each other, rather u can be there for him in different places where he does feel lonely... i hope u got what i am saying... and don't ask him to make a place for u, u should find a place for urself in his life and he'll automatically feel great about it... Independent ppl can never make create place for ppl. the ppl who enter their lives do it by themselves!
2006-09-03 08:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by Dirac 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't specific about what you are needing from him. Emotional closeness, physical closeness, what? If he isn't meeting your needs, something in wrong. "Trying" isn't a good answer. I suggest you both head for the counselor and get some help before it gets worse. I guarantee you it will get worse too.
2006-09-02 23:33:37 · answer #5 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What u guys really need is to sit down and talk about this problem. try to tell him how u feel and if he is doing something wrong or something to upset u then u tell him and try to resolve it or u can chose to see a counsellor
2006-09-02 23:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by Cops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to a therapist.
2006-09-02 23:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you probably need to get a life. just find what interest you and do it.
2006-09-02 23:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by justnotright 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
walk outside buck naked..someone will eventually talk to yo skinny ***
2006-09-02 23:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
sex
2006-09-02 23:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋