well my friend just got out of a relationship and well the breakup was bad and she continued to talk to the ex and now she doesn't want to talk to anyone at all she's isolated from the world and beyond i'm afraid she's depressed or has thoughts of committing suicide she can't seem to stop thinking of how her ex treated her and he killed her emotionally she's a beautiful person and i told her any guy will kill to get the love she gives but she doesn't listen and i'm at a lost cost and i don't know what to do for her anymore??
2006-09-02 16:26:29 · 5 answers · asked by Ashli L 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There seems to be a lot going on with your friend. She is lucky to have you. Time is the best healer, help her get through it. She probably is not ready to find another so don't go there. The words should, would, & could haves carry denote guilt. She is playing the same record over and over most likely blameing herself for many things gone wrong in the relationship. Encourage her not to go there. Just be her friend go and do things toghther and do not mention her problems unless she wants to talk about it. Soon her self confidence will return and she will be on the road to recovery. Her EX is probaly not her first love and wont be her last. I know you are anxious but, one day at a time. Keep in touch.
2006-09-02 16:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by fred f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to talk to anyone, because she doesn't want to hear what you all are trying to tell her. She wants to be sad, she wants to hurt; not consciously desirous, but subconsciously. For by her suffering, she hopes to prove to the world, including him, how much she loved him.
Happiness is a choice; a choice that sometimes seems to be beyond our ability to choose in favor of it. There are a few things you can tell her to help her a little, as far as the pain goes, and to not commit suicide, but until she desires to be happy again, and choose in favor of it so being by her own choice, she will remain unhappy....
[1] He will never forget her, even if he wants to.
[2] He will always love her for the reasons he did, for love is a gift, once given, that can never be taken back... not to be confused with the things he did not love about her.
[3] If she commits suicide, she will never have an opportunity to get back with him, even if he should someday change his mind, and wish her back. Even worse, from her spirit state, she will have to witness his happiness with others; for the spirit goes where the heart leads it.
2006-09-02 18:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old she is, but she is more than depressed. She really needs to be in counseling because if she has been abused, she needs to work through that and the depression.
Insist that she go. Where are her parents, other family members. They need to know what is going on too. Get her into counseling as soon as possible.
2006-09-02 16:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let him go and he comes back, he's yours
If you let him go and he doesn't, he never was.
Also, if she truly loved him, she would be happy for what makes him happy. That's the long and the short of it. No one is worth getting depressed over, letting alone killing yourself.
2006-09-02 16:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone for awhile.
let her sort everything by herself.
she need time to sort her emotions.
and when she needs u be their for her.
2006-09-02 17:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by ayakotomimori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋