He has only women that he talks to online. I didn't worry until his
msg was opened one morning and he had call this lady online and address her as " Hi Sweetie," he said this meant nothing and it was innocent. What do you think am I just being paranoid. I do not talk to other men on line.
2006-09-02 16:14:36 · 34 answers · asked by lizzybit64 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think its right that he is married and chatting it up with women who he calls "Sweetie" online. No, I don't think your paranoid. Have you discussed this with him and told him how you feel? Ask him if its okay if you chat it up with other men online and say "Hi Lovechops."
2006-09-02 16:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
my partner talks to other women online and I talk to other men.
He has called them sweetheart and it doesn't mean a thing.
Don't automatically assume that he is looking for somone else, that is not always the case. You can become your own worst enemy! If you start jumping to conclusions without real good reson you just might lose him.
It is not adultry to chat online, it is not practice for when someone comes along and you certainly can not make another person stop doing something they want to do.... you can't control others, it is not right to even try. We all need friends, even of the opposite sex. There is nothing wrong with that.
Unless your partner has really given you good reason to be suspicious - don't be. Lighten up - he is with you isn't he, if he wanted to leave he certainly would. Remember the words "innocent until proven guilty".
2006-09-02 16:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by ladyw0llf 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The real question is not if you are paranoid or if he is flirting, but will he stop talking to women online. I mean regardless of anything - you are his wife and must meant much more to him then a women in cyberspace - so simply ask him to stop. It isn't that you don't trust him, and it isn't because you are paranoid. It is because you are his wife and it would make you feel loved and cherished. Besides just because you are paranoid doesn't mean people really aren't out to get you.
2006-09-02 16:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by Russ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Worried isn't the right word. More like Angry comes to mind. That's how it all starts. Talking online, then meeting up with them and lying saying that the little pet names are innocent. I bet if you check his phone and text messages you'll find more information. Especially in the archives history part of the yahoo instant messager. I've been there, and it's not being paranoid.
2006-09-02 17:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Good2Go 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can identify with your situation. On the rare occasion when I get online, I usually only speak privately with women. I never get online when my wife isn't home, and when she is I have no problem with her looking over my shoulder at my conversations. I have some close female friends that sometimes take liberties with how they address me, which my wife does get ruffled about on occasion. I can perfectly understand that, but these are friends that I've been through a lot with and she knows that. Casually walk behind him when he's chatting with his friends; if he gets nervous or jumpy, then he's hiding something.
2006-09-02 16:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be worried, he may be only having a cyber affair, but that can and often does lead to real life affairs.
It seems to me that even the innocent little online chatting has been the cause of many marriages falling apart in the past and should be viewed as cheating even without physical contact.
2006-09-02 16:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by patbendrv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't tolerate it! Their is never a thing called innocent flirting!!! I don't talk to other men online either I love my husband and I have respect I would never do anything to jeopardize marriage vowels he has no right to be talking to women online he already has someone to talk to and be with why the hell does he need to talk to some girl online?? I would watch it you never know if it might be someone closer then you think for all you know it could be somone he knows I wouldn't tolerate it I would tell him I would appreciate it if he would quit talking to her and if he would get upset about it then I would leave him tell him it's either you or the computer chic he can't have his cake and eat it too geeze what is he going to do?? stick his weenie in the hard drive??? men can be so stupid.....
2006-09-02 16:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, it is mostly women who use the e-mails.BUT when your husband uses Hi Sweetie, time to worry!!
Change the password on the computer.
I talk to men and women, this site, and answer questions about weightlifting. But I NEVER make it a personal discussion.
That definitely leads "to the dark side."
2006-09-02 16:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hi sweetie is nothign to worry about my hubby does it all the time i know he loves me and i have nothing to worry about he just chats with others females to have something to do for a past time .i say hi sweetie to my nephews and cousins that are guys and it dont bother him just be open and honest about how it makes you feel and it will help you more then you think
2006-09-02 16:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by little_bummblebee 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now-a-days, you have to be very concerned. I would be if I were you, so much can be accomplished over the internet. A new element of distruction for the happy marriage if you ask me. As if there were'nt enough temptations in this world. You have to be concerned as well with how much time is spent talking to these women. He may say it's harmless and it usually starts that way but you may need to nip this in the butt now before something innocent turns into something devistating!
2006-09-02 16:22:48 · answer #10 · answered by TeeTeeLew 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋